Adult child lies about everything.

Discussion in 'General Parenting' started by Steveh, Sep 24, 2017.

  1. Steveh

    Steveh New Member

    My 40 year old child continually lies, steals from me and should most probably should be in jail. This person can be so charming and then just when you think all is good, the heroine addict reappears. How do you tell your child you can never see them again.
  2. SomewhereOutThere

    SomewhereOutThere Well-Known Member

    I have a 40 year old. They are far from children. They are middle age adults.

    I dont know your back story, but if he steals from you, hurts you, drives you insane...get a restraining order against him. Dont say anything you arent sure you can do. Just dont answer his calls or texts or the door if he comes over (see restraining order). Change your locks. Get a security camera. Do not see or talk to him unless he is clean and, even then, because relapse is common, only meet him in a public place, like a coffee shop, not in your house. Ever. If he stole recently, call the police. What a betrayal.

    I am assuming he is intolerable. Most addicts are. And your son must have been on this road for a while now at age 40.

    You cant be young and you deserve to enjoy the rest of your life and feel safe. Do whatever you have to do to make that happen. Do you have other family or close friends? Church group? Any support?

    We are here for you. Most if us are familiar with drugged adult kids.
  3. Steveh

    Steveh New Member

    Why do they not ask for help when they relapse?
  4. SomewhereOutThere

    SomewhereOutThere Well-Known Member

    Shame, they dont CARE about the relapse, etc. If they want help, at age 40 your son knows how and where to get it. If he wants to quit, he doesnt need your guidance to quit. This isnt his first rodeo. He knows what he has to do. Drug addicts often sadly prefer the high to quitting.

    He has already been to rehab? You have already done it all to try to help, right? Dont you deserve a life already?
    Last edited: Sep 25, 2017