Now that 35 is no longer under such extreme pressure, when he calls me it is pleasant and upbeat. VERY STRANGE, but 35 has always suffered from TERRIBLE anxiety disorder, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), and panic disorder. He is unable to control himself under stress, especially extreme stress, and gets abusive and even makes scary threats that I have no idea if he would carry out if the issue he is stressed about comes to fruitation. But now he is happy and as calm as a claim. WEIRD!!!!!!! If he remains calm, I may go visit my grandson, although I will NOT stay at difficult child's house. I am dying to see my little guy now that I know we are not going to lose him to ex. 35 is a very difficult person to figure out. But my main concern is giving my grandson a bit of stability. Even my ex is no longer engaged in his life. My ex is 66 and had a serious endocrine disorder and medical issues since age twenty-seven and he seems to be on the decline. He was a good man, but he no longer invested in giving much to grandson, even when he is visiting. That leaves me as the only person who can give him the extended family stability and love that he deserves. I know I'd be a good influence and maybe another person to trust and call if things get shaky down the road. If 35 remains stable, I may go down for a while this winter, when it is so cold here. I am so anxious to hug my little boy who has been so brave. What do you all think? Remember all the stuff 35 said when he was freaked out. Should I go for the sake of my dear grandson who has held up so well for a five year old who has been a real soldier. What would you do? This is not about consoling or engaging 35. This is strictly about my grandson. I love him so much, although I don't know him that well. I feel it is time he gets to know me so I can offer him unconditional love and a safe haven...well, somebody to at least contact if things get tough for him with either parent. Good idea? Bad? Risky? I would not be going right away. I simply don't have the money to go yet. So I have time to weigh the pros and cons. Help?