Just finished a long drawn out text conversation with our probably Bipolar, adopted, 28 YO son, who lives in Denver. Once again, he is abusive. Tells me that we shouldn't have ever adopted him. That we only did it because my husband wanted a kid and I didn't want the hassle of nine months of pregnancy and we only did it for our fulfillment, not because we cared, that we never cared about him, have never done anything for him, that my husband as a pastor only pastors because he wants money (huh?), and that he only went along with the "religious BS" to please us, and that we should F*** off and get out of his life. Wow. That hurts. I just wonder---did he really feel like this as a kid, or is this just what his mind has deluded him into believing? Was his loving, happy nature as a boy real or was it a facade, and we were just fooling ourselves the whole time? I can't seem to disengage from him. I need to, but after a couple of weeks with no contact I start the whole cycle again by texting him. This latest episode started because we wanted to offer help with getting his car (which we gave him) inspected and registered. Instead of being grateful and accepting of the help, he goes off on us about how we won't cosign a car loan for him, and how we are selfish people who only care for ourselves. I don't understand why I can't let him go and accept that this is the way it is, at least for now. I hate myself for continuing to beat myself up with his verbal abuse. WHY AM I DOING THIS?