Greetings fellow parents ("parent-leagues"??). I am new here, having stumbled into this community yesterday out of desperation after years of parenting a difficult child. I posted my first thread (see it here)with the overall story over in General Parenting, but am finding the best fit is here in emeritus. 6 weeks ago husband and I kicked out difficult child after reaching the end of our collective rope with him. Compared to many of the stories I'm reading here he is not so extreme, but my meddling family has made it much more difficult. I have had to not only kick out difficult child but I've also had to detach (again, but more permanently) from a sister and a stepmother. A person difficult child has thought of as a stepdad (ex boyfriend) since he was little has turned out to be Darth Vader. Lots of betrayal, in addition to difficult child problems. Since kicking difficult child out I am struggling with grief and the dreaded unknown of the future. difficult child refuses to talk to me and won't even return texts anymore. I know he is angry, but he as been angry for years. It is years of bad choices that got him into this position, and that is of course what I'm trying to teach him by refusing to tolerate his perpetual defiance and disrespect. I know that at 18 his frontal lobe isn't fully developed yet and is partially why he has turned out this way, in addition to the issues he has from losing his dad at 9 years old. But how can we continue to enable his behavior if he is not willing to own his own stuff and make better choices? I guess I'm just wondering about parents who have also had to kick out their adult children, who then cut off communication. How long was it until they recontacted you? What happened that instigated the contact? What kind of trouble did they get into, and how bad was it? Any stories you can share will be so appreciated. I know there is a lot of wisdom here.