PatriotsGirl
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So we saw the judge yesterday. He complimented her and told her she looked a lot better than the last time he saw her. The state and probation officer reviewed the current situation and how she would be denied tanf because she is living with her parents. He rolled his eyes and said, "let me get this straight - if she was still not doing the right thing, the state would reward her and help her but since she is trying to pick herself up by the bootstraps, they won't do anything to help?". Yes, that about sums it up. The probation officer gave a glowing review of how difficult child is doing and told the court that she is thriving here at home. He agreed. They all acknowledged she has been clean for months now and there was no sense in rehab but they want difficult child to learn the tools she needs for when times get rough because she won't always have us. He told her that her willpower was exemplary, and that if every client was like her, he wouldn't have a job. When they brought up the battery case, he asked if it was the one with M, and the state said yes. He turned to difficult child and said, aww, too bad, you should have hit him harder. She was supposed to take a domestic violence course, but they took that off. They took difficult child off of house arrest and she is to do 24 weeks of outpatient treatment. Any dollar spent on that treatment goes dollar for dollar against her fine. He asked her what she wanted to do and she told him she wanted to get a job to help support her son and wanted to go to school so she could get a better job. He told her yes, go back to school!
It was actually a good court day.
After dinner we went to see easy child's best friend in a school play last night and stopped at CVS on our way home. As we were checking out, difficult child told us that she would meet us at the car in a minute. I grew suspicious and asked her why. She wouldn't tell me. I told her that she is not buying cigarettes, that she has not smoked all this time and besides smokers will not stay in my home. I cannot tolerate that smell. I looked at the cashier and asked her to please not sell difficult child any cigarettes and she promised she wouldn't. easy child and I went to the truck and sat there with our arms crossed waiting for her to come out. She came out with something behind her back. Turns out she wanted to buy me a rose. I felt so bad that I jumped to conclusions like that. She told me she wiould never smoke because of Connor. That she would feel awful. I chalk it up to PTSD from how she used to behave. It would take anyone a while to get over years of GFGness...
She is finally getting over M and moving on. She called him a d bag and sperm donor the other day. She talked to the other girlfriend that is pregnant. She is having a boy as well. Interesting situation. difficult child said there is no point in bad blood between them because they both made the same mistake. She said that if M is the father of both, that makes the boys half brothers and about six months apart. She offered the baby clothes that no longer fit Connor to her. I found it odd but I am proud that she is so mature about the situation.
She has been in touch with her old friends from rehab and other old friends that have either straightened out or are in rehab straightening out. She is encouraging everyone to be/get/stay clean. She is happy to be home and happy with her life now.
husband asked what I wanted for my 40th birthday and I told him I have it. There is nothing else I could possibly ask for. I mean that from the bottom of my heart. I want nothing more than what I have right here, right now.
So that is the latest on this front...I am thinking about ALL of you and praying for you ALL....
It was actually a good court day.
After dinner we went to see easy child's best friend in a school play last night and stopped at CVS on our way home. As we were checking out, difficult child told us that she would meet us at the car in a minute. I grew suspicious and asked her why. She wouldn't tell me. I told her that she is not buying cigarettes, that she has not smoked all this time and besides smokers will not stay in my home. I cannot tolerate that smell. I looked at the cashier and asked her to please not sell difficult child any cigarettes and she promised she wouldn't. easy child and I went to the truck and sat there with our arms crossed waiting for her to come out. She came out with something behind her back. Turns out she wanted to buy me a rose. I felt so bad that I jumped to conclusions like that. She told me she wiould never smoke because of Connor. That she would feel awful. I chalk it up to PTSD from how she used to behave. It would take anyone a while to get over years of GFGness...
She is finally getting over M and moving on. She called him a d bag and sperm donor the other day. She talked to the other girlfriend that is pregnant. She is having a boy as well. Interesting situation. difficult child said there is no point in bad blood between them because they both made the same mistake. She said that if M is the father of both, that makes the boys half brothers and about six months apart. She offered the baby clothes that no longer fit Connor to her. I found it odd but I am proud that she is so mature about the situation.
She has been in touch with her old friends from rehab and other old friends that have either straightened out or are in rehab straightening out. She is encouraging everyone to be/get/stay clean. She is happy to be home and happy with her life now.
husband asked what I wanted for my 40th birthday and I told him I have it. There is nothing else I could possibly ask for. I mean that from the bottom of my heart. I want nothing more than what I have right here, right now.
So that is the latest on this front...I am thinking about ALL of you and praying for you ALL....