But she is mad at us and just acting stupid and out of control. We have had three good days (no school) with only minor irritations. But this is over the top. On Wed night she wanted to sleep in DFES (Dear Foreign Exchange Student) room we said no - but the last night she asked again. DFES said it was OK so we let her. She only has a full bed, so I know it was probably a little crowded. Then all day today they were together (bowling, movie etc) While watching the movie, difficult child was draped all over her. We would give difficult child little hints about giving DFES some space. But she wouldn't take the hints.
Then at 9pm, we asked her to do some homework - and she has to go to DFES room to work on it. Since DFES was also doing homework we asked difficult child to do homework in another room. She started yelling that she should just leave the house... and I couldn't help but say there's the door. I am so tired of being yelled at and difficult child being rude to me. husband stopped difficult child from leaving so she took her book and sat in the closet. It is a very TINY closet.
Finally got her out of the closet and husband had a discussion with the both of them about boundaries. And trying to get DFES to speak up and let difficult child know when she needs her space. difficult child is very needy and doesn't have any real friends to spend time with on her own. So now difficult child is "banished to her room" until bedtime and she is mad that she can't spend more time with DFES tonight. Gee, a whole 20 minutes before bedtime... how cruel of us.
I don't know what triggers this... probably turning off the TV and asking the girls to read or study. I hate this. Just when you think you are on an even keel... it all falls apart. KSM
Then at 9pm, we asked her to do some homework - and she has to go to DFES room to work on it. Since DFES was also doing homework we asked difficult child to do homework in another room. She started yelling that she should just leave the house... and I couldn't help but say there's the door. I am so tired of being yelled at and difficult child being rude to me. husband stopped difficult child from leaving so she took her book and sat in the closet. It is a very TINY closet.
Finally got her out of the closet and husband had a discussion with the both of them about boundaries. And trying to get DFES to speak up and let difficult child know when she needs her space. difficult child is very needy and doesn't have any real friends to spend time with on her own. So now difficult child is "banished to her room" until bedtime and she is mad that she can't spend more time with DFES tonight. Gee, a whole 20 minutes before bedtime... how cruel of us.
I don't know what triggers this... probably turning off the TV and asking the girls to read or study. I hate this. Just when you think you are on an even keel... it all falls apart. KSM