There is this friend of mine and all she knows is that my son is homeless right now...she has offered him a room in her house for him to stay. She is not aware of his substance abuse and I don't want my son labeled. Do I leave the choice up to him weather or not he chooses to tell her and her husband? She knows from a few years my son had been in trouble with pot and being arrested so she may have some indication or want to be sure before renting my son a small efficiency to live in not far from her house. I fear that if she finds out she will tell a several people and the word will spread about his addiction. My question is what should I advise my son to do? He may not even want to live in her house knowing that he will have no choice but to make eye contact with her. It makes me feel good to know that he does have a clean place to lay his head rather than bug infested couch that is unsanitary in very way imaginable. At the same time ...if he does not take the room someone else will. What should I advise him? I don't think he is even smart enough to know what to say. He did stress to me about a month ago that he wouldn't want anyone knowing anything unless he does wine up in jail. Also, I think it would be unfair of me not to let her know as she is a friend of mine...although at times I think she forgets where she came from, as she was an addict herself in the past. PS.I did change my username and it looks like I forgot an extra r. I need a laugh.