BusynMember
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This has been bugging me for a while and I want to see how other people feel.
I consider myself the mother of four, since Scott is no longer a part of our lives. Out of the four other children, I have one biological son in Missouri, a daughter from Korea, Sonic and Jumper.
I love all of them dearly, but feel far more disconnected from Sports Fan (biological son) than the other three kids. Not only does he live in Missouri, but he isn't much on calling, he doesn't try to make an effort to see us (and some of that is money and his work schedule), and he really has some personality flaws that bother me and. He is nice and respectful to me when we do talk, but that isn't very often. It is very hard to get him on his phone and he rarely calls back.
I feel close to Sonic, Pastry Chef and Jumper and it is a total joy to be with my two girls so I wonder if I favor my girls over my boys. Sonic, with his autism, is hard to get to know, but I have a real soft spot in my heart for him. So I feel very close to all three of these kids.
But, if I'm telling myself the truth, I really really really consider Jumper just a little more special than the other kids. I don't know if I love her more. I don't really think so. But she is such a rewarding and fun kid. She is so mature and so free of drama and sometimes...I feel guilty about feeling this way. The time we spend together is always so much fun. We just REALLY get along well.
Is all this normal? Also, is it common to not feel as connected to kids who live far away and don't call that much? I guess it would be better if I called his wife, because she could tell me more about my grandson and fill me in on what they have been doing, but I have never been close to her. That makes it even harder to stay in close touch.
Thoughts? Do you feel the same way? Am I just stange? LOL, well, I KNOW I"m strange...
I consider myself the mother of four, since Scott is no longer a part of our lives. Out of the four other children, I have one biological son in Missouri, a daughter from Korea, Sonic and Jumper.
I love all of them dearly, but feel far more disconnected from Sports Fan (biological son) than the other three kids. Not only does he live in Missouri, but he isn't much on calling, he doesn't try to make an effort to see us (and some of that is money and his work schedule), and he really has some personality flaws that bother me and. He is nice and respectful to me when we do talk, but that isn't very often. It is very hard to get him on his phone and he rarely calls back.
I feel close to Sonic, Pastry Chef and Jumper and it is a total joy to be with my two girls so I wonder if I favor my girls over my boys. Sonic, with his autism, is hard to get to know, but I have a real soft spot in my heart for him. So I feel very close to all three of these kids.
But, if I'm telling myself the truth, I really really really consider Jumper just a little more special than the other kids. I don't know if I love her more. I don't really think so. But she is such a rewarding and fun kid. She is so mature and so free of drama and sometimes...I feel guilty about feeling this way. The time we spend together is always so much fun. We just REALLY get along well.
Is all this normal? Also, is it common to not feel as connected to kids who live far away and don't call that much? I guess it would be better if I called his wife, because she could tell me more about my grandson and fill me in on what they have been doing, but I have never been close to her. That makes it even harder to stay in close touch.
Thoughts? Do you feel the same way? Am I just stange? LOL, well, I KNOW I"m strange...