tinamarie1
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I just watched yesterdays episode, where a mother caught her husband molesting her 9 yr old daughter, and continued to live with him where he continued molesting the girl for many many years.
It made me think back to when I was 13 and my sister called me after watching an Oprah show on child molestors. She asked me point blank if our brother had ever molested me. She knew..she knew! he had. otherwise she would not have asked. He molested me several times between the ages of 5 and 11. (my sister is 10 years older than me and my bro. is 13 yrs older than me). She convinced me to go to my mom and tell her, esp. since my brother was still living with us and I refused to ever be alone in a room with him. I told her in detail places he took me and what he did. She went to him and he admitted it and came to me and apologized. I told my mom that I couldn't live with him anymore. She refused to make him leave (he was 26 at that time). So, instead my alcoholic father drove from Florida, picked me up and I went to live with him in a 2nd Hell for a year. He continuously abandoned me, got arrested and would call me from Detox screaming that I had put him in jail. I was only 14 at that time. DFS came to the door one day and threatened to take me to juvinile jail if my dad did not show up the next day. I went back to my mom and a few months later, she got remarried and my step dad demanded that my brother get out on his own.
My whole thing is that #1, I have never had a normal sex life. I actually despise the thought of it. The only thing that I can say is good about it, is it makes my husband happy.
#2 I have just come to this realization that my sister knew all those years and didn't tell anyone or ask me or show concern for me #3 My mom was no better than the mom on Dr. Phil...she did nothing to protect me from my brother. She actually said to me at one time, "snap out of it, he said he was sorry".
I have always felt like it was me against my mom and sister in everything. And I have never known why I felt this way. I am wondering if this could be it. I don't know why I have never come to this realization before about them not protecting me. It hurts so much and I have been to many counselors over the years and they think its self esteem issues, not so much the molestation that makes me look at intimacy the way I do.
I just don't know where to go with these feelings and I needed to get it out.
Tina
It made me think back to when I was 13 and my sister called me after watching an Oprah show on child molestors. She asked me point blank if our brother had ever molested me. She knew..she knew! he had. otherwise she would not have asked. He molested me several times between the ages of 5 and 11. (my sister is 10 years older than me and my bro. is 13 yrs older than me). She convinced me to go to my mom and tell her, esp. since my brother was still living with us and I refused to ever be alone in a room with him. I told her in detail places he took me and what he did. She went to him and he admitted it and came to me and apologized. I told my mom that I couldn't live with him anymore. She refused to make him leave (he was 26 at that time). So, instead my alcoholic father drove from Florida, picked me up and I went to live with him in a 2nd Hell for a year. He continuously abandoned me, got arrested and would call me from Detox screaming that I had put him in jail. I was only 14 at that time. DFS came to the door one day and threatened to take me to juvinile jail if my dad did not show up the next day. I went back to my mom and a few months later, she got remarried and my step dad demanded that my brother get out on his own.
My whole thing is that #1, I have never had a normal sex life. I actually despise the thought of it. The only thing that I can say is good about it, is it makes my husband happy.
#2 I have just come to this realization that my sister knew all those years and didn't tell anyone or ask me or show concern for me #3 My mom was no better than the mom on Dr. Phil...she did nothing to protect me from my brother. She actually said to me at one time, "snap out of it, he said he was sorry".
I have always felt like it was me against my mom and sister in everything. And I have never known why I felt this way. I am wondering if this could be it. I don't know why I have never come to this realization before about them not protecting me. It hurts so much and I have been to many counselors over the years and they think its self esteem issues, not so much the molestation that makes me look at intimacy the way I do.
I just don't know where to go with these feelings and I needed to get it out.
Tina