My sixteen year old daughter- soon to be 17- was diagnosed with ODD last Thursday. The funny thing about her ODD that no one has been able to explain is why it disappears if her boyfriend (also diagnosed with ODD) is out of town? It is as if my darling little girl has turned into a complete stranger in the last few years. Started slowly at about age 13 and has suddenly roared in with a vengeance in the last four months. I have had the police out to the house several times, especially since it seems to go hand in hand with her beginning to smoke pot. She has not yet used anything harder than pot but refuses to give up either boyfriend or pot. She gets violent, throwing things, pushing me down, breaking stuff, screaming, swearing and refused to follow ANY rule whatsoever. The closer she gets to a date with said boyfriend, the more likely she is to blow. So scary cause if she is not going to spend a day or two with him, I have my other child back- charming, loving, hopeful positive. I know he has physically and emotionally abused her in the past. She claims there is none of that going on now. we have been repeatedly told not to try to bust them up- does anyone know how hard that is? How terribly hard? Anyway there is no way to do it. If I tell him not to come to my house he comes anyway. If I say do not call here he will call 150 times. He has broken my windows while I was gone and they both lie about it so no way to have him arrested. If he is in my house, he will not leave when told to- I have to call the cops to get him out. Then,,,,periods of total happiness, cause he has gone out of town. Why? If she is really ODD, why is she ONLY ODD when he is in town? If we take HER out of town instead, she may have one or two violent angry fits and then the rest of the week she is perfectly normal. I cannot understand how someone's mental disorder is dependent upon the physical presence of another person. And now she has a battery charge against her OUTSIDE the house. She was angry with her boyfriends roommate's (did I mention said boyfriend is now an adult living on his own) gilrfriend for evicting boyfriend from shared apartment due to over use of pot in apartment. Anyway, my daughter threw a half empty soda can at the other girl and hit her in the face and now off to court we go. Very scary for me. Anyway she is supposed to start therapy here very soon, sometime in the next week. And also something called "equine therapy" where she learns to ride a horse. Supposedly learning about the horse teaches her to respect her parents. Don't understand that either. Plus her school work just is going up in flames. don't think she will be able to salvage enough to graduate.