aeroeng
Mom of Three
Last summer I took by difficult child and his younger brother to their pediatrician for a yearly exam. difficult child had a disagreement with the Dr. and got angry. Dr. did not want me to let him leave the room because he was too angry. I was new to the explosion problems and agreed with the Dr. (Now I would never force him to stay in the room when mad, I would let him escape and take him out to the car). I was holding the door so difficult child could not get out. difficult child's anger grew exponentially until he said, "I will beat you up mom, (older bro) is bigger then me and I can beat him up. I can beat you up as well". I knew despite his anger he had never hit or hurt ether myself or his older brother and this was just talk. But the Dr. did not know this so he put the boy in a full nelson head lock. difficult child struggled and every corpuscle in his face ruptured. Upon looking at his face he exploded again. Screaming every curse word there is in rolls of profanity. I just walked to the car. At the time my difficult child was going to a school rougher then I knew about and had taken pride that he did not curse. So by time we actually got in the car he started apologizing for cursing saying, "You know I don't curse. That's not me". He cried the entire way home. At least until we got a call from the camp is older brother was at. Older bro had accidently pushed a camp counselor in the pool and they wanted us to pay for the blackberry. Then my difficult child witnessed thieves stilling someone's gas. And this actually calmed him down.
But fast forward to today. difficult child lost all trust in his pediatrician. The pediatrician calls every now and then asking about him, will write any referral I request, but agrees he should see a different primary Dr. Yesterday I saw my family practice Dr. While there I asked if he would take difficult child on as a patient. I was a little bit afraid if he knew the past he might not want to face the problems. But instead he said yes he could be his primary Dr. but warned me that he had no background in psychiatry and did not know how to recommend anything related to the anger issues. After talking he let me know that he had two explosive kids of his own. It sounded like he had tried everything under the sun and nothing worked. He recommended reading the Explosive Child. (Which I had already ordered).
Now I know he is not going to be able to tell me how to solve the problems. But, I have not found anyone else who can ether. But because he has been there, done that, he is not going to be judgmental or blame it on parenting, medical choices or lack of involvement. He'll probably be able to see an event building before it happens and understand better how to avoid it. A little thing, but a relief. difficult child now has a Dr that can deal with the typical boy injuries, skin rashes, ear infections, medical stuff they all need. Ya!
But fast forward to today. difficult child lost all trust in his pediatrician. The pediatrician calls every now and then asking about him, will write any referral I request, but agrees he should see a different primary Dr. Yesterday I saw my family practice Dr. While there I asked if he would take difficult child on as a patient. I was a little bit afraid if he knew the past he might not want to face the problems. But instead he said yes he could be his primary Dr. but warned me that he had no background in psychiatry and did not know how to recommend anything related to the anger issues. After talking he let me know that he had two explosive kids of his own. It sounded like he had tried everything under the sun and nothing worked. He recommended reading the Explosive Child. (Which I had already ordered).
Now I know he is not going to be able to tell me how to solve the problems. But, I have not found anyone else who can ether. But because he has been there, done that, he is not going to be judgmental or blame it on parenting, medical choices or lack of involvement. He'll probably be able to see an event building before it happens and understand better how to avoid it. A little thing, but a relief. difficult child now has a Dr that can deal with the typical boy injuries, skin rashes, ear infections, medical stuff they all need. Ya!