Back story : http://www.conductdisorders.com/for...r-difficult-child-spinning-out-control-52230/ http://www.conductdisorders.com/for...irst-visit-since-she-left-5-months-ago-53515/ difficult child and biological dad had a huge blowout. Police involved and ended up with difficult child spending night at the loser fiancés house. The past month or so difficult child and her mom have been communicating thru email and the occasional phone call. difficult child actually spent mothers day weekend with us. So they have been talking and difficult child claims she wants to stop lying and come clean with everyone. She has already told us that her and the Bildo are together and currently engaged. (we already knew this) but the only person she has left out is her bio dad. My wife has told her you need to come clean with everyone, especially youre dad since hes currently keeping a roof over your head and feeding and clothing you. Well bio dad is a complete moron , and pretty much unable to have a decent conversation about anything. He actually thinks hes got ahold of the situation and that difficult child is conforming to his rules. The guy is completely clueless. So my wife gets a call from difficult child this morning. She tells her that her and her dad had a huge blowout. She came clean with him and said that her and Bildo are still together and engaged and they have been communicating with a cell phone that he provided. So of course bio dad blows up take the phone and shatters it on the pavement, then actually grabbed difficult child by the wrist. Who really knows how hard , difficult child embellishes her stories so much and just exaggerates about everything so we will never know the truth. So she ran to the neighbor and called the police they ended up taking her to Bildos and that is where she spent the night. So after explaining all this to my wife she asked if she could come back and live with us. I am very happy that my wife and I are on the same page , we both do not want this at this moment. Weve also communicated to difficult child that weve known all along that her and him have not broken up and never did. We told her your 18, you dont live under our roof , it is what it is. Its your mistake to make. We dont approve of your choice but who really chooses who they fall in love with. We also told her that if she wants to spend time with us , its with us. You can be with Bildo on your own time. We do not want to see nor hear about him. The first time we see you trying to sneak to see him or talk to him when youre visiting us , then we are done. The last time we talked I told her that for as much as they are in love , he has not sacrificed anything for you. It has all been on you, you have sacrificed where you lived, a relationship with your family, everything and for what ? It fell on deaf ears Im sure. My wife also told difficult child some things that Bildo has been saying on FB and in school about difficult child. Things that are not true, and from the outside looking in is proof that he is trying to alienate her from her family and now friends. I dont think my wife should have even brought that up, it will only make her look bad since difficult child will only believe what Bildo says. Now I know when it comes to difficult child living on the street or with Bildo and his family my wife might change her mind. To me, yes I can see that will be tough for my wife but difficult child has to hit rock bottom before she can learn. At the moment that has not happened. We had heard that Bildo has gotten accepted into the military, which Im having a hard time believing with his poor grades, and medications and issues he has. If true it might be the best thing for him. Is this stuff ever going to end ?!? It is amazing how one person can let such a destructive person into their lives and not even see what it is doing.