I feel like I am screaming and nobody hears me. My difficult child Son will be 20 years old in December. He has been out of our house since January of this year. His step-father and I bought him a trailer and he pays the lot rent and his electric bill. We told him we would help with his medications and groceries for a year but as of January 1 he would be on his own. He has lost 2 jobs this past year and now he is working at BurgerKing 2 days a week. I have told him that he needs to find a second job or another job all together, but he sees no urgency in it. My Mom doesn't help. She feels sorry for him and will give him money. Oh she tells me he is working for it, but I can tell you he is getting paid way more that the work he is doing. difficult child knows how to push my buttons. I start out being very strong and then end up losing it with him. We have told him that if he can't pay his bills we will sell the trailer and he will have to go to the homeless shelter. I don't think he thinks we will let him fall on his face. difficult child son has ADHD, depression, Defiant Disorder. He gets very angry when he is presented with facts that he doesn't want to face. I am usually the one he get angry at. He will yell and scream and show himself and then call back to apoligise. I am so tired of all of it. He has been a handful his whole life. I just want him to be a responsible adult. My easy child son is 16 years old and acts much older than his brother. He goes to school, plays ball and works. difficult child son is very smart but quit school. He had a problem with rules. He was in jail for 16 months because he wouldn't do the work required by the court. Thank you for any input.