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difficult child's outgrageous fabrications on the truth?
Hi family, I really need some advice here.
difficult child is known to stretch the truth and even tell right out lies. She does the everyday stuff of not owning up to her behaviors, alot of it is typical pre-teen ****.
I am talking about BIG stuff: horse died on our proprty, she had to bury it in our pasture. Digging a huge hole because she needed to show a friend H**L. Telling counselor she was scared of me because I was beating easy child 3. And so many more stories that I could go on for days.
Latest is last week. We started having a behaviorist here 3 hours weekly. She told him that when husband took her, a friend, easy child 2 and grandson to the races that when they were entering the track, that the rest of the group went in, she dropped her ticket, she was alone and a creepy guy dressed up like a clown told her if she didn't give him her ticket, he would take her away. She told this behaviorist that she was nearly kidnapped. She went on and on about it, was very convincing. She actually had me getting mad at husband because he left her alone. Behaviorist looked at me and was writting notes like crazy. I told him I had never heard of this before and I would need to check with husband because I couldn't imagine he would ever have left her alone.
Checked with husband when he got home and his side is: They all entered track at same time. Fairgrounds was setting up for the fair and there was a Carny leaning on the entrance gate asking for tickets. Guy at gate told Carny to leave the area. husband and group all entered races together. difficult child was never left alone. End of story. This happened about a month ago. husband didn't even think to tell me about it because it was such a non-thing.
I cannot tell you how many times difficult child has done this, told teachers, tdocs, psychiatrists, neighbors, family, friends...outrageous stories that have small bits of truth but HUGE amounts of fabrications. When she was younger, we used to say there is reality and there is difficult child's reality.
Problem with her reality is that it brings CPS into our lives, and many other professionals questioning us.
It is being documented, so usually just takes a few days for "authorities" to figure out she is lying.
I am so sick of it. I have behaviorist thinking about a way to reach her but I just don't know how. The way she perceives the world and situations is so off the charts.
I am also very scared that if something really does happen to her, no one will believe her. Behaviorist asked me how many times a day does she lie, I said if her lips are moving...
I am sorry this is such a long post. We are really troubled by this behavior and have no idea how to get ahold of it. Usually her fabrications happen when husband and I are not around, so by the time we hear about it, Teachers, CPS, or whomever are calling or knocking on the door.
Any suggestions would be wonderful!!
Hug, Vickie
P.S. difficult child actually believes her stories. She cries and says these things really, truly happen. How do you correct a behavior that is so out of reality??
Hi family, I really need some advice here.
difficult child is known to stretch the truth and even tell right out lies. She does the everyday stuff of not owning up to her behaviors, alot of it is typical pre-teen ****.
I am talking about BIG stuff: horse died on our proprty, she had to bury it in our pasture. Digging a huge hole because she needed to show a friend H**L. Telling counselor she was scared of me because I was beating easy child 3. And so many more stories that I could go on for days.
Latest is last week. We started having a behaviorist here 3 hours weekly. She told him that when husband took her, a friend, easy child 2 and grandson to the races that when they were entering the track, that the rest of the group went in, she dropped her ticket, she was alone and a creepy guy dressed up like a clown told her if she didn't give him her ticket, he would take her away. She told this behaviorist that she was nearly kidnapped. She went on and on about it, was very convincing. She actually had me getting mad at husband because he left her alone. Behaviorist looked at me and was writting notes like crazy. I told him I had never heard of this before and I would need to check with husband because I couldn't imagine he would ever have left her alone.
Checked with husband when he got home and his side is: They all entered track at same time. Fairgrounds was setting up for the fair and there was a Carny leaning on the entrance gate asking for tickets. Guy at gate told Carny to leave the area. husband and group all entered races together. difficult child was never left alone. End of story. This happened about a month ago. husband didn't even think to tell me about it because it was such a non-thing.
I cannot tell you how many times difficult child has done this, told teachers, tdocs, psychiatrists, neighbors, family, friends...outrageous stories that have small bits of truth but HUGE amounts of fabrications. When she was younger, we used to say there is reality and there is difficult child's reality.
Problem with her reality is that it brings CPS into our lives, and many other professionals questioning us.
It is being documented, so usually just takes a few days for "authorities" to figure out she is lying.
I am so sick of it. I have behaviorist thinking about a way to reach her but I just don't know how. The way she perceives the world and situations is so off the charts.
I am also very scared that if something really does happen to her, no one will believe her. Behaviorist asked me how many times a day does she lie, I said if her lips are moving...
I am sorry this is such a long post. We are really troubled by this behavior and have no idea how to get ahold of it. Usually her fabrications happen when husband and I are not around, so by the time we hear about it, Teachers, CPS, or whomever are calling or knocking on the door.
Any suggestions would be wonderful!!
Hug, Vickie
P.S. difficult child actually believes her stories. She cries and says these things really, truly happen. How do you correct a behavior that is so out of reality??
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