dstc_99
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So this last week has been a blast. After all the drama with difficult child attending a party with alcohol and the boyfriend getting on twitter and taunting her to hurt herself difficult child called me into her room on New Years Day to talk. I knew immediately this had to be bad because she never 'willingly' talks to me. She generally hides in her room and avoids me like the plaque. Anyway apparently she thought she was pregnant. She went on to say that she had taken two home pregnancy tests and one had been positive the other negative. She told me she had taken a picture of the positive one and sent it to the boyfriend since he was refusing to communicate. The boyfriend proceeded to post it to twitter and called her a liar. At some point he found a very similar if not the same picture online and used it on twitter to prove his point. His friends attacked like piranhas.
I kept my calm during the whole thing. I told her to keep her mouth shut and stay offline. I told her I would take her to get a blood test in the am. I then went to my room to do some research on the twitter **** since she had not seen what was being said because she has recently deleted her twitter account. It was pretty brutal. These kids are just downright nasty but then again I don't expect much else from the people the boyfriend hangs out with.
I asked her to show me the photo she sent and or the message she sent and as usual she had deleted it all which is the norm when I ask for proof of anything. This time I took the phone and ensured she wasn't lying about things being deleted. I did find some interesting photos though. She had multiple pictures of her bedside table top. difficult child's argument was that the picture the boyfriend found online included a pink cap on the pregnancy test and the background was different. She was trying to say that the table it was laying on was different. Honestly I think they are the same picture. One is zoomed in and doesn't show a cap the other is zoomed out and does. The backgrounds look exactly the same to me.
Long story short she is not pregnant. I think she may have pulled the picture off the internet and sent it to him thinking she wouldn't get caught. She was slightly nervous about the pregnancy test thing but she had started her period on New Years Day so she was pretty sure it wasn't an issue. Normally though if she is worried about things she is an . She has this demeanor that I can't explain but I know and that tells me when she is actually worried. I didn't get that feeling while we were waiting for the results. I think the whole thing was a cry for attention. I don't think she ever thought she was pregnant or had a positive test she wanted his attention and couldn't get it so she tried something new. Even after I told her to stay off the internet and not speak to him she did so I took her phone and changed all the computer passwords so she would have no access to him at all.
After the pregnancy test results came back I went to the school to speak with the principal about the issues. I want her separated from this guy. Basically they sent me to the Court Designated Worker who was out of the office for the day. They feel that I should file charges. They are going to let the teachers know to keep an eye out but they can't keep her away from him 100%.
I am confused about what is the right action. Both of the kids are in the wrong. difficult child may have sent a fake pregnancy test picture to him which spurred some of these actions or she may have truly thought she was pregnant until she started her period. On the other hand she didn't force him to put it on twitter. The boyfriend is taunting her to hurt herself. He and his friends are being extremely nasty even after she has had no access to them or made any comments for several days. I truly do feel she is being harassed but at the same time I also feel she has made the mistakes that got her here.
I kept my calm during the whole thing. I told her to keep her mouth shut and stay offline. I told her I would take her to get a blood test in the am. I then went to my room to do some research on the twitter **** since she had not seen what was being said because she has recently deleted her twitter account. It was pretty brutal. These kids are just downright nasty but then again I don't expect much else from the people the boyfriend hangs out with.
I asked her to show me the photo she sent and or the message she sent and as usual she had deleted it all which is the norm when I ask for proof of anything. This time I took the phone and ensured she wasn't lying about things being deleted. I did find some interesting photos though. She had multiple pictures of her bedside table top. difficult child's argument was that the picture the boyfriend found online included a pink cap on the pregnancy test and the background was different. She was trying to say that the table it was laying on was different. Honestly I think they are the same picture. One is zoomed in and doesn't show a cap the other is zoomed out and does. The backgrounds look exactly the same to me.
Long story short she is not pregnant. I think she may have pulled the picture off the internet and sent it to him thinking she wouldn't get caught. She was slightly nervous about the pregnancy test thing but she had started her period on New Years Day so she was pretty sure it wasn't an issue. Normally though if she is worried about things she is an . She has this demeanor that I can't explain but I know and that tells me when she is actually worried. I didn't get that feeling while we were waiting for the results. I think the whole thing was a cry for attention. I don't think she ever thought she was pregnant or had a positive test she wanted his attention and couldn't get it so she tried something new. Even after I told her to stay off the internet and not speak to him she did so I took her phone and changed all the computer passwords so she would have no access to him at all.
After the pregnancy test results came back I went to the school to speak with the principal about the issues. I want her separated from this guy. Basically they sent me to the Court Designated Worker who was out of the office for the day. They feel that I should file charges. They are going to let the teachers know to keep an eye out but they can't keep her away from him 100%.
I am confused about what is the right action. Both of the kids are in the wrong. difficult child may have sent a fake pregnancy test picture to him which spurred some of these actions or she may have truly thought she was pregnant until she started her period. On the other hand she didn't force him to put it on twitter. The boyfriend is taunting her to hurt herself. He and his friends are being extremely nasty even after she has had no access to them or made any comments for several days. I truly do feel she is being harassed but at the same time I also feel she has made the mistakes that got her here.