I told him he needs to borrow a vehicle from his folks. He said no, that it was stupid for him to drive one of theirs when we had a perfectly good one sitting here.
I said "WE" don't have a perfectly good one here, "I" do.
DEX's parents help me out often. His mom watches Wee in the afternoons as much as she can, til we get this school situation figured out. If my car breaks down, they loan me theirs. When we went to Alabama this spring, I had to fix a headlight in my truck before we pulled out. I mentioned it to exMIL as I picked up Wee that afternoon, and a couple hours later, she and exFIL showed up with their car and a coupld hundred bucks. They told us to get, and have a good time. When I got home, the headlight was fixed, too. They aren't rich, but they do nice things often. She'll make a casserole and bring it by for supper, or buy the big box of fried chicken and drop it off here. I could not have made it without them, and I despise husband for what I see as taking advantage of them. They help me as much as they can, and they don't have to do squat. And there he sits, playing disposable cars. It makes me feel so trashy.
Anyway, when I told him it was pretty sad when the ex'es are so willing to help and he can't even put forth the effort to take care of what we have, and I resented his abuse of their help. (Heck, husband was mad yesterday because they returned a joint-owned hay elevator to us that exFIL brought it back and coudln't get it in the barn by himself. I can promise if it hadn't come back, husband would have been equally as ticked off...). He yelled at me that he's sorry his family isn't up to my standard's and rich.
WTH? Rich? Who's rich? My family would be if they ever sold the farm. But that's my family. NOT me. They help if I need it, but sheesh...husband's parents give him and his sister FAR more than i get from anyone, so what does family money have to do with anything? OMG.
He has also yelled at me tonight that I must have damaged the car by changing the oil last week.
Remember that commercial lawnmower he bought 4 years ago? I pointed out he hasn't even changed the oil in it. He drives is twice a week, all year round. During mowing season, it mows our yard (3 acres), his folks' yard, and sometimes the church. He has changed the oil in that thing (drum roll please) TWICE. And he got bent out of shape because I said once.
Twice, in 4 years. And he wonders why it wont run very well now, either. The past 2 summers, it dies at random, particularly on hillsides. He just turns up the choke and keeps on driving it instead of looking into the problem and fixing it.
I'm a dang far cry from perfect, but darnit, I try. 8 years ago when the gas prices went up, I didn't know ANYTHING about cars. Gas ate my budget, so I either had to learn, or give up the horses. I'm not perfect, but I try. I have 4 close friends who are mechanics, so advice and help is not far away. And dag-nabbit, I open the owner's manual in the glove boxes and read the maintenance sheets every now and again. I dont follow them to a T, but I follow them.
Our dryer broke about 4 months ago. He had to hang out ONE load of laundry in that time, and he griped like there was no tomorrow. OMG, the perils of no dryer. I told him even when I get a new one, we're still using the line. It saves $100 a month.
It amazes me, I can make twice what he does, but I'm the one that worries about saving money. He's all about saving money til it means he has to do something.
I could spit nails. I really was kinda hoping he wouldn't come back tonight.