Let's hope that we can help our children and grandchildren to not repeat these patterns.
That is exactly what I am trying to do. After years of thinking my family was supportive I've given up the charade (thanks Star). I guess I just thought if I kept saying it that would make it so. I finally told my sister that we were never brought up to be supportive of each other so it doesn't suprise me anymore when we aren't. As much as I hate to say this, dad spent his life putting a wedge between us siblings and then wondering why we never got along along.
But my goal now is to make sure that this cycle ends here. I am trying to bring my kids up to know that family will always stick behind them and be supportive. They have great role models with my husband's family who are 42 strong and very close and supportive. They have aunt, uncles, cousins who would all be there for them in a heartbeat and I am fortunate to have them in my life.
Nancy
That is exactly what I am trying to do. After years of thinking my family was supportive I've given up the charade (thanks Star). I guess I just thought if I kept saying it that would make it so. I finally told my sister that we were never brought up to be supportive of each other so it doesn't suprise me anymore when we aren't. As much as I hate to say this, dad spent his life putting a wedge between us siblings and then wondering why we never got along along.
But my goal now is to make sure that this cycle ends here. I am trying to bring my kids up to know that family will always stick behind them and be supportive. They have great role models with my husband's family who are 42 strong and very close and supportive. They have aunt, uncles, cousins who would all be there for them in a heartbeat and I am fortunate to have them in my life.
Nancy