toughlovin
Well-Known Member
OK my turn to post. Ugh. I have gotten these calls before... actually more than once.... since he was in high school. The last one was a couple of months ago.... but the call is some girl he knows, usually on FB who gets in touch with me because he is threatening to harm himself and she is worried and doesnt know what to do. So she does the right thing and calls his parents!! Last time it was two messages on FB from two different women.... messages he wrote when drunk in the middle of his first relapse. Tonight it was a phone call from a girl he knew in high school, but not real well but they are fb friends. She called to tell me.... she didnt even know where he is. I reassured her that I did and that I would contact him and the treatment program and then I thanked her and told her she did the right thing. She said good she was nervous about calling because it felt awkward but didnt know what to do.
OK so my son clearly has substance abuse issues but it is stuff like this that makes me say he also has mental health issues because this is just screwy behavior. I mean doing it once for attention in high school, maybe, but doing it multiple times when you are 26.... even if you are drunk. That is just really messed up.
Anyway I am very thankful for the program he is in.... because first I called him and when he didnt answer I called the program. Talked to the person on call, who called him and then went over to his place. He called me, said he was fine, sounded impaired or it was a bad connection hard to tell... said he was fine. The on call person went over there, he would not let her in, but said he was fine and was mad since he had already talked to her. So let him be angry who cares. He has to learn if he does stuff like that people will take him seriously as they should.
I sure wish he would really figure things out.... I kmow at least a part of him wants to.....
TL
OK so my son clearly has substance abuse issues but it is stuff like this that makes me say he also has mental health issues because this is just screwy behavior. I mean doing it once for attention in high school, maybe, but doing it multiple times when you are 26.... even if you are drunk. That is just really messed up.
Anyway I am very thankful for the program he is in.... because first I called him and when he didnt answer I called the program. Talked to the person on call, who called him and then went over to his place. He called me, said he was fine, sounded impaired or it was a bad connection hard to tell... said he was fine. The on call person went over there, he would not let her in, but said he was fine and was mad since he had already talked to her. So let him be angry who cares. He has to learn if he does stuff like that people will take him seriously as they should.
I sure wish he would really figure things out.... I kmow at least a part of him wants to.....
TL