Jungleland
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Hi family,
This will be a vent, so you are forewarned!
This past weekend, I had Aly here alot, on and off. She started out respectful and we were having a good time. But then, lunch time came and I have next to no $ so it was PB&J's and apples here at home, picnic style. J loved it and was having a good time, going back and forth to the kiddy pool and back to our "picnic".
Aly went on an eating strike. (she is 123 lbs and 5'3" so she would NOT die of starvation missing a meal!) She wanted take out for lunch and had a flipping fit, about an hour long! Scared J, and my nieces and nephews. I called H and he was on the riding mower and refused to come get her, so I had my brother in law help me get her into my car and he drove her over to H's with me.
H refused to believe that Aly was misbehaving so horridly. brother in law told him all she said, I just stood there with my mouth open, not saying a word. I just got back into my car and brother in law drove me back home. I cried on and off all that day.
H and I talked on Sunday, he needed me to watch her, he had some meeting he needed to go to. I said NO WAY, I will not allow her to treat me that way again. He said he was shocked that I am being that way with my own daughter. How could I be so cruel and unfeeling, blah blah blah. I said I had to go and hung up. He called back, I let my machine pick up and he said he couldn't believe I was so unloving to Aly, so strict, so mean!
I am NOT mean, but I am strict, if I am not, she walks all over me. He just gives in to her, "basket C's" everything that doesn't cause blood or death. I will no longer take her "stuff", I deserve better than that from someone I fought for for soooo long. I love her, so very much and this whole thing is killing me inside, but I don't know what else to do.
On Monday, while he was at work, I went to his/our place and emptied out all J's and my clothes, took a dresser I needed, got all the rest of J's toys. Left a note that I need time and not to call me for a while please.
So, Aly IM'd me this evening about a talent show she is trying out for and wanting an immediate answer about whether I was going to go to the show. I wrote that I would try my very hardest, but I could not promise. H called immediately and left a very rude message that once again I was proving that I have "given up" on Aly and him. I called him back and said that I did not appreciate his comments and things I say to Aly have NO bearing on him!
I just don't know what to do anymore. Seems whatever I do, it's the wrong thing. I give up!
Thanks for reading,
Vickie
This will be a vent, so you are forewarned!
This past weekend, I had Aly here alot, on and off. She started out respectful and we were having a good time. But then, lunch time came and I have next to no $ so it was PB&J's and apples here at home, picnic style. J loved it and was having a good time, going back and forth to the kiddy pool and back to our "picnic".
Aly went on an eating strike. (she is 123 lbs and 5'3" so she would NOT die of starvation missing a meal!) She wanted take out for lunch and had a flipping fit, about an hour long! Scared J, and my nieces and nephews. I called H and he was on the riding mower and refused to come get her, so I had my brother in law help me get her into my car and he drove her over to H's with me.
H refused to believe that Aly was misbehaving so horridly. brother in law told him all she said, I just stood there with my mouth open, not saying a word. I just got back into my car and brother in law drove me back home. I cried on and off all that day.
H and I talked on Sunday, he needed me to watch her, he had some meeting he needed to go to. I said NO WAY, I will not allow her to treat me that way again. He said he was shocked that I am being that way with my own daughter. How could I be so cruel and unfeeling, blah blah blah. I said I had to go and hung up. He called back, I let my machine pick up and he said he couldn't believe I was so unloving to Aly, so strict, so mean!
I am NOT mean, but I am strict, if I am not, she walks all over me. He just gives in to her, "basket C's" everything that doesn't cause blood or death. I will no longer take her "stuff", I deserve better than that from someone I fought for for soooo long. I love her, so very much and this whole thing is killing me inside, but I don't know what else to do.
On Monday, while he was at work, I went to his/our place and emptied out all J's and my clothes, took a dresser I needed, got all the rest of J's toys. Left a note that I need time and not to call me for a while please.
So, Aly IM'd me this evening about a talent show she is trying out for and wanting an immediate answer about whether I was going to go to the show. I wrote that I would try my very hardest, but I could not promise. H called immediately and left a very rude message that once again I was proving that I have "given up" on Aly and him. I called him back and said that I did not appreciate his comments and things I say to Aly have NO bearing on him!
I just don't know what to do anymore. Seems whatever I do, it's the wrong thing. I give up!
Thanks for reading,
Vickie