Well after my oldest child called Wednesday and asked to come "stay" with me for a few weeks, my middle daughter just called today said she wanted to move back to my town from her dad's and asked if she could stay with me for about a month. I told her no!!! Let's go back... After my middle child graduated I told her she could live with me for 1 year, rent free as long as she kept a job, saved her money and followed the rules of not staying out late and no friends spending the night, she decided to go live with her GM and 2 days later begged to come back and promised to follow the rules, well 4 months went by and she maybe stayed overnight 4 times, i finally had to put my foot down about her being gone all the time, i found out she was going to raves and using and the last straw was when she and a friend come by the house for clothes i could smell marijuana so strong. Basically i told her she couldn't stay if she was using and she got so angry she trashed my living room after a heated argument and i left. I told her today on the phone, i was no longer going to let her take advantage of me, i wanted to have a relationship with my children without them holding their hand out, and my decision was NO i would not even ask my husband and a few other things also, then she said yes ma'am and i told her i loved her and ended the conversation. I feel good about what i did, but in the same i feel guilty, i am hoping the guilt passes soon, it was really hard to do!!