My last post, I discussed how strong I had become in dealing with my Difficult Child and now I'm at a point that I'm not sure if I've taken detachment too far or if what I'm feeling is even considered normal. She committed an aggravated robbery back in February but wasn't arrested until the DA reviewed the case and decided to file the charges on June 9th. Police, Texas Rangers and the SWAT team swarmed my house looking for her - which she wasn't there - and I gave them the address that I had mailed a letter to for her just a week before. That night, they had her arrested and in jail facing 1st degree felony aggravated robbery. It's been several weeks and she's been to court a few times but nothing is really accomplished. I only accept calls from her once a week because of the expense and honestly, there's really nothing to talk about but she continues to try and call me multiple times each day which is frustrating. The sentence for her charge is 5-99 years or life in prison is she is convicted. Here's where I am feeling some real confusion and I'm going to be completely honest with my feelings here: 1. I WANT her to go to jail/prison. Not for 30 years or anything but I feel strongly she should spend some time without her freedom to maybe, just maybe have a wake-up call and decide to turn her life around. 2. I have written to the prosecutor (D.A.) encouraging them to not offer deferred adjudication to her because I can almost promise with 100% certainty that she will not meet the very stringent criteria and end up in prison anyway. I have been ridiculed for doing this but I am trying to save my daughter. 3. If she gets out on 'probation' she will be right back using drugs, stripping (which is what I found out she was doing right before she was arrested) and living with dangerous people - she will have learned NOTHING and her victim gets no justice. I'm afraid she will end up pregnant, with diseases or dead if she doesn't get it together. 4. The impact to my husband and I could be significant, especially if she ends up pregnant! Also, the fact that she has no money, no license and would be looking to rely on us to help her meet her probation requirements is not something I'm willing to do. 5. Here's the worst part and what I'm getting some heat for - I can honestly say that I want her to go to prison to really experience some consequences of her actions because I'm angry with her for all she has done to me, my husband, extended family and others along the way. Despite everything we tried to do to help her, she spit it all back in our faces and I'm just done! Apparently, we haven't been affective parents so what will be affective? I'm out of ideas and so maybe that's why I am favoring some time behind bars. I can't imagine having her living in the house again but she's still very young so if we didn't let her come home, she would go back to what she had before which is working the street, stripping and drugging in a bad part of town which I know I can't control but I can't stop thinking that if the justice system would actually impose the sentence that her crime calls for, she just might get a shot at having the time and sobriety to think through her life, her choices and maybe really make a change when she is released. I'm open for thoughts!