nvts
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Very different. difficult child 1 has been doing extremely well in school. We've taken him off all medication, so he's sort of "swinging in the breeze" for the first time in years. He was sooooo aggressive with every medication that we tried that I dug into the side effects on each one and surprisingly each one read something along the lines of "can cause aggressive behavior". Figured it was worth a shot and he's really doing well. Now don't get me wrong - he's made 1 stupid decision but where he usually messes up, he's doing beautifully. Still got a mouth, but it's more "feeling his oats" kind of stuff vs. verbal bashing that used to go on.
The one stupid decision (most of you know that most of his problems. surround fear of physical harm) was joining the two really cruel bullies in some of their antics on the bus because they promised to stop hitting him if he did. It should be noted here that difficult child 2 stood up for the kids they were picking on and got pushed around by the 2 bullies because of that. I admire him tremendously.
Anyway, (as I go back to my original point of the post!) we went to therapy last night, and discussed both the school placement issues with the intermediate school as well as the bus situation. The next thing I know difficult child 1 is declaring that he wants to be in a Gen. Ed. class with 30 or so other students and not a 12:1 within the gen ed environment. This blew my mind - he's never once expressed this before. He actually got indignant that I never presented this as an option to him. I swear, I can't win!
He also discussed how much he's disappointed in his dad. Dad has been a recluse with his video game for about 9 mos. now. The kids are really resentful and I don't really know how to make him correct it. He's just hiding out and when he does stoop to interact with the kids, it's criticism or yelling constantly. Then it comes down to I'm not tough enough on them.
Nothing like an armchair quarterback trying to call the plays!
It's official - I'm ready to go screaming into the night!
Beth
The one stupid decision (most of you know that most of his problems. surround fear of physical harm) was joining the two really cruel bullies in some of their antics on the bus because they promised to stop hitting him if he did. It should be noted here that difficult child 2 stood up for the kids they were picking on and got pushed around by the 2 bullies because of that. I admire him tremendously.
Anyway, (as I go back to my original point of the post!) we went to therapy last night, and discussed both the school placement issues with the intermediate school as well as the bus situation. The next thing I know difficult child 1 is declaring that he wants to be in a Gen. Ed. class with 30 or so other students and not a 12:1 within the gen ed environment. This blew my mind - he's never once expressed this before. He actually got indignant that I never presented this as an option to him. I swear, I can't win!
He also discussed how much he's disappointed in his dad. Dad has been a recluse with his video game for about 9 mos. now. The kids are really resentful and I don't really know how to make him correct it. He's just hiding out and when he does stoop to interact with the kids, it's criticism or yelling constantly. Then it comes down to I'm not tough enough on them.
Nothing like an armchair quarterback trying to call the plays!
It's official - I'm ready to go screaming into the night!
Beth