I hope so. I am feeling sad and guilty because I just can't seem to muster positive feelings for difficult child. You have to understand, she isn't really trying and I am tired of trying by myself with no improvement.
Last month, I mentioned about the self piercing of her nose while we were on vacation. We had asked her to wait til she is of age and made it clear that for someone to do a piercing on a minor was illegal so she knew where we stood. Actually, the nose piercing is minor. I could live with it. But every time I see it, I think of the lies, the sneaking, the defiance, the attitude, her words... "I wanted one, Other people have one. I knew you would say no, so I just did it." I have lost all feelings of trust towards her. This is not the only thing she has lied about. It is almost daily. I'll take her to school early so she can go to her teacher for extra work - and she won't go. Oh, she will go to school early, but won't go to the classroom. I'll email the teacher to see if she went in early - and they say nope. Sometimes she will call to ask to stay late - "to get caught up" but she never gets caught up and doesn't connect with the teacher.
She lies about how much money she spends... or loaned... or lost... who knows. Her little babysitting job gives her some spending money, and I dont expect for her not to spend it - but would like an honest remark of what happened to it.
She will lie in the morning when I wake her up and then 10 minutes later, I will ask if she is up, and she says yes. Then 30 minutes later when it is time to go she finally crawls out of bed and then tell me she was up, she was just trying to decide what to wear.
I am just so tired of all the lies... She doesn't understand the pierced nose is nothing... but was it worth our relationship? And then I think, even without it - would our relationship be any better? I still have all the lies about everything else. She talks the talk but she aint walking the walk. I get so tired of excuses, her drama, her big plans that she can't carry thru.
I want things to be better - but don't have a clue how to get there. KSM
Last month, I mentioned about the self piercing of her nose while we were on vacation. We had asked her to wait til she is of age and made it clear that for someone to do a piercing on a minor was illegal so she knew where we stood. Actually, the nose piercing is minor. I could live with it. But every time I see it, I think of the lies, the sneaking, the defiance, the attitude, her words... "I wanted one, Other people have one. I knew you would say no, so I just did it." I have lost all feelings of trust towards her. This is not the only thing she has lied about. It is almost daily. I'll take her to school early so she can go to her teacher for extra work - and she won't go. Oh, she will go to school early, but won't go to the classroom. I'll email the teacher to see if she went in early - and they say nope. Sometimes she will call to ask to stay late - "to get caught up" but she never gets caught up and doesn't connect with the teacher.
She lies about how much money she spends... or loaned... or lost... who knows. Her little babysitting job gives her some spending money, and I dont expect for her not to spend it - but would like an honest remark of what happened to it.
She will lie in the morning when I wake her up and then 10 minutes later, I will ask if she is up, and she says yes. Then 30 minutes later when it is time to go she finally crawls out of bed and then tell me she was up, she was just trying to decide what to wear.
I am just so tired of all the lies... She doesn't understand the pierced nose is nothing... but was it worth our relationship? And then I think, even without it - would our relationship be any better? I still have all the lies about everything else. She talks the talk but she aint walking the walk. I get so tired of excuses, her drama, her big plans that she can't carry thru.
I want things to be better - but don't have a clue how to get there. KSM