With all the therapies & treatment plans floating around this family for the tweedles it's been pointed out to me recently how "negative" I am being. I was scolded at a recent meeting for wm for failing to recognize his "stop & think" before asking something of me. Again, at a recent therapist appointment with kt I was scolded for seeming so negative. I called kt's therapist today before our appointment tomorrow to discuss this issue. I told him that while everyone seems to appreciate the grief & anger that kt & wm are feeling; the changes in their bodies due to puberty - the team as a whole are failing to recognize my grief, sadness over job loss & then the death of my mother. I also pointed out that my body is changing in a huge way - menopause. I asked very diplomatically for therapist to back off. He suggested that maybe husband should bring kt in tomorrow. I called the man a wuss. therapist chuckled. As parents of difficult children, we fight, advocate & research. We support our little wonders to hell & back. I feel we deserve some consideration in the therapeutic milieu. To understand that we are human beings. I guess it's been a bad day emotionally - people, in general, need to stay away from me. Thanks for letting me vent.