Hello - thank you for letting us talk here. I am weary of my daughter who is 37 . My husband and I spend a great deal of time with our grandchildren , flying across the country to see them and all that entails. When we are here it is like she thinks she is entitled to the childcare and appreciation and thanks are not high on the list. She likes to drop them in the door, and run off. If it was not for the grandchildren we would not bother coming to see them. We helped for an entire year when she went through leukemia - now she is 5 years out , healthy and strong, but not kinder. I have read many things, changed many responses, feel like I am on eggshells sometimes... but she will cut me down so suddenly , often in front of others, that is still comes as a surprise. We love our grandchildren and they have a wonderful relationship with us. If our other children knew how she is to us , they would be very upset. I guess some people are just not so nice and we have to work around that ? Not how we "saw this going"