Mother's Day is one of "those" days for me.
I try to always do something for MY mom. But it's very bittersweet for me as a Mom - because my kids are, well, not mine.
husband doesn't think about it. Seriously - it just does not cross his mind (but let me forget Father's Day - !) My Mom will give me a card.
2003, 2004, 2005 - Not married to husband, so wasn't technically ANY kind of mom. No acknowledgement. Didn't stress it.
2006 - Jett brought me a gift he made in school. Then informed me I had to share it with BM. Nothing from Onyxx.
2007 - Ditto. Also, Onyxx stole husband's cell phone, attacked him and we ended up with a protective order. husband took the kids to get me a rosebush - and got a potted gardenia (I despise gardenias, but they did not know the difference, and so I said nothing).
2008 - Jett made two gifts this year, and somehow BM's went missing. Suspect Onyxx trashed it. father in law and husband got together and gave me a basket of flowers and plants. The rosebush survived...
2009 - Jett made two gifts. Onyxx actually gave me a decorated paper bag with a tissue-paper flower and a card.
2010 - Jett conned my mother into paying for roses. On the day they were delivered, he informed me that I had to share them with BM. (My mother was livid, as she had explained to Jett that if he wanted flowers for BM, he needed to talk to his stepfather.) Onyxx brought me a small cake from Kroger at the last minute. (Hey, she remembered!)
To be honest, I really hope Jett does NOTHING this year. I'd rather have no acknowledgement than have to SHARE. Maybe I'm selfish, but honestly? After what has happened to these two? Don't care to be equated with her.
Jett will be at BM's anyway this weekend. Perhaps I can get husband to take me to dinner. My Mom is flying to NJ Sunday, so Saturday I'm going to go spend some time with her.
And maybe, just maybe... I will have a "real" reason to celebrate Mother's Day as an actual "real Mom".