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Vweat002
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Hi I am new to this site and it looks like this is the place for me. I am a mother of 4 children 3 of which are no problem and 1 that is beyond hard to handle. I have a 14 year old daughter that for the last 2 years seems to be spiraling out of control. She was a happy child but 2 years ago her natural father lost his job...then stopped seeing her...then her found out that he was ill...then he became homeless.
With every new problem her father had she seemed to get worse. Last year I decided to take her to therapy because her grades were failing, she was withdrawn, and was lying constantly and stealing money from myself and her step father. Her therapist stated that she would work with he on dealing with the issues concerning her father but disnt think there was anything major wrong with her. the April of last year she told a school official that my husband beat her, that we forced fed her tuna fish that she was allergic to, and some other crazy things (he didnt beat her, we dont force feed her and shes not allergic to tune).
CPS was called and they dropped the case because my daughter admitted to lying. I continued to take her to therapy, explained to her the significance of making up fake stories and how much trouble people can get in and how it affected us. She continued to become more withdrawn and disrespectful. This last week a recieve a call from the school police. My daughter was now stating that I was not her real mother (i am ) that her realy family died in a car crash, that now i beat her on a daily basis, that i starve her, and that she has no sibblings. Once again CPS was called on us. Once again they investigated and of course found nothing to be true. Since my daughter continued to claim that I wasnt her mother I decided to take her to the county mental health. they evaluated her and then sent her home because she was not a threat to herself or others.
Over the weekend I found letters that were written between here and her friends. Apparently she has been telling her friends and their parents for at least the last 6 months that I am not her mother and the story about her parents dying in a care crash. She also told other people that she was adopted, has made up family members that do not exist, and basically embelishes or straight out lies about almost everything everyday. I took her to her councelor and they immediatly had her put into the hospital. It has now been 1 week since she has been in the hospital and she is still claiming that I am not her mother. The doctors said that they arnt sure if she actually believes it or not or if she is being manipulative, however they are starting her on (Abilify) to treat what they are calling a severe mood disorder.
I know that I have kind of condensed a lot of stuff into a paragraph and that Ive probally left some things out that I cant remember but im at my wits end here. She has already falsly called CPS on us 2 times, this whole situation has been really hard on her other siblings, Im afraid she might hurt one of her other siblings when she comes home and basically Im afraid of her. I still dont know if she truely belives what she is saying but she has also now refused to see me when I have come for visitation. I am so confused, both her stepfather and I love her very much and have always been good parents and I dont know why she is doing this......has anyone else had anything like this happen?
With every new problem her father had she seemed to get worse. Last year I decided to take her to therapy because her grades were failing, she was withdrawn, and was lying constantly and stealing money from myself and her step father. Her therapist stated that she would work with he on dealing with the issues concerning her father but disnt think there was anything major wrong with her. the April of last year she told a school official that my husband beat her, that we forced fed her tuna fish that she was allergic to, and some other crazy things (he didnt beat her, we dont force feed her and shes not allergic to tune).
CPS was called and they dropped the case because my daughter admitted to lying. I continued to take her to therapy, explained to her the significance of making up fake stories and how much trouble people can get in and how it affected us. She continued to become more withdrawn and disrespectful. This last week a recieve a call from the school police. My daughter was now stating that I was not her real mother (i am ) that her realy family died in a car crash, that now i beat her on a daily basis, that i starve her, and that she has no sibblings. Once again CPS was called on us. Once again they investigated and of course found nothing to be true. Since my daughter continued to claim that I wasnt her mother I decided to take her to the county mental health. they evaluated her and then sent her home because she was not a threat to herself or others.
Over the weekend I found letters that were written between here and her friends. Apparently she has been telling her friends and their parents for at least the last 6 months that I am not her mother and the story about her parents dying in a care crash. She also told other people that she was adopted, has made up family members that do not exist, and basically embelishes or straight out lies about almost everything everyday. I took her to her councelor and they immediatly had her put into the hospital. It has now been 1 week since she has been in the hospital and she is still claiming that I am not her mother. The doctors said that they arnt sure if she actually believes it or not or if she is being manipulative, however they are starting her on (Abilify) to treat what they are calling a severe mood disorder.
I know that I have kind of condensed a lot of stuff into a paragraph and that Ive probally left some things out that I cant remember but im at my wits end here. She has already falsly called CPS on us 2 times, this whole situation has been really hard on her other siblings, Im afraid she might hurt one of her other siblings when she comes home and basically Im afraid of her. I still dont know if she truely belives what she is saying but she has also now refused to see me when I have come for visitation. I am so confused, both her stepfather and I love her very much and have always been good parents and I dont know why she is doing this......has anyone else had anything like this happen?
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