I am new to this site. I have an alcoholic/drug addict son that was arrested in July and has been in the county jail since. His bail was set initially at $150k and has since been reduced to $40k so he has not been able to bail out. At his bail hearing the judge said he could not return to his home or be within one block of said home. He asked my son where he would live. My son turned to his attorney and the next thing I know the judge is asking if my sons mother is here and could he come live me. I was stunned and had not expected this. I replied that he could for a short period of time. The judge looked at my son, who by the way will be 31 in September, and said your mom does not look happy. This is not my sons first stint in jail. The last time he did live with us and our life was upended and chaotic. As my son was escorted out of the courtroom in handcuffs and shackles by the bailiff, he turned and gave me the most hateful look he could muster. I feel like a shitheel for saying he could only stay for a short period of time but if the truth be known, I don't want him in my home at all. There is a part of me that feels as though I am abandoning him and then there is the rational part that knows him living with me and my husband will not work out. He is blaming everyone he can reach out and touch for his predicament. He went to court yesterday for a pre-trial hearing which was postponed due to a filing of an order to suppress evidence by his attorney. And as I drove to work today the local radio channel highlighted his case. I cried, turned around and came home. I am feeling angry and scared and a bit lost.