Ok. Here's the update such as it is.
Myself, Nichole, easy child, and about 10 of easy child's co workers all reported this picture to MySpace. easy child figured there would be strength in numbers.
I made a call to cps. Again they are supposed to investigate. Why because I reminded them of the photo of Kayla. I didn't make accusations, I simply stated strong concerns. (I've delt with cps before) The person I spoke with seemed mighty concerned herself.
We'll see where that goes. I did not/ will not mention this to K. She knows me. She's most likely guessed that was the first thing I did this morning.
I didn't bring police into it simply because cps worker sounded like they really are going to get off their duffs and do something this time. by the way I gave them the MySpage page address, and at the time the picture was still up.
So if she typed it in......I'm sure she got an eyefull.
K emailed me this morning. I only just read it and replied. She was both livid and humilliated that her husband had done such a thing and we'd seen it. As many of you know this has been an on going problem. She swears the picture was taken in the bathroom when the older kids were at school. I'm guessing this is what her husband told her as that motel room would have to have one hellova huge bathroom cuz there was no tub ect in that photo. K swore to me when the kids are awake and home she is always awake and watching over them. She still states the picture of Kayla is innocent. But does admit that the sex stuff with her husband is out of hand and a major problem.
Sigh.
She says she has been planning to leave him. She's waiting on a spot to open up in the homeless shelter. She stated that they had a mega fight over the picture and all the other sex stuff he does. And that she was sorry we had to see the picture.
Well. I'd like to say I believe her. At this point however, based on past performance.......which may or may not be fair since it was over 6 yrs ago........ I dunno about the planning to leave him thing. I hope she is. God knows she has nothing to lose by doing so and everything to gain. But that doesn't mean she'll do it.
I offered up some advice for if she wants to leave and ways she can make it happen. But didn't take sides or push her either way. Learned that lesson the hard way and most certainly won't make the same mistake twice. When we brought her back here in 2000, she was "supposed to be leaving him". Instead, unknown to us for many months, he'd secretly come with her and she'd been in contact/relationship with him all along. Which resulted in her running off back to Mo with him 2 years later. Leaving us all burned badly.
The Mom part of me wants to offer her a place to go. But the pessimistic practical part of me won't let me do it. I've got quite a battle going on. It doesn't help that I know exactly what it feels like to find yourself in a horrible nitemarish situation, to feel completely alone in the world, with no one offering to help, not even family. Hoovers to the nth degree.
I'd love nothing more than to believe her. To offer her a safe haven to get her life back on track and put this scumbag behind her once and for all. I'd like nothing more than to give her all the family support this family can muster (and that's a hellova lot) to pull her out of that hades she and the grands have been living.
But while it's pure torture for me not to do exactly that.....There was no mention of that in my reply. And I feel like the lowest piece of dung right now. Why? Because my own code of morals as far as family goes is telling me I'm leaving the girl high and dry when she needs me and her family the most. Believe me, it's not sitting well at all. difficult child or not, that is
not in my opinion what famiies do to each other.
Lordy. I'm a mess today.
I haven't called police. Maybe I should. I'm on the fence on that one. I don't want to alienate K if I can help it. And that would probably push her over the edge. Plus I don't know if this perv is violent. I believe he is very violent, and have past evidence to back it up by people who knew them before K came here in 2000. (although K currently denies violence) And I'm not wanting to put K in a dangerous spot. IE your stepMom got me arrested so now I'm gonna take it out on you.
I want to belleve K. I breaks my heart that I can't simply accept what she has to say as the truth. If I thought for even a moment that she was dead serious about wanting to get away from this sicko........I'd find a way to get her a bus ticket and she and the kids would be on the next one out of town. We'd make it work. Even at the risk of being burned again.
But I'm afraid this wack job has had her in his clutches since she was 14 and has her so thoughroughly brain washed that she may never be able to escape his grasp.
So for now I'm holding my cards. I have no clue what is going to happen. I'm a very sad parent. Because of a major difficult child decision 9 years ago K can't just email me and say Lisa I'm in trouble, help me please. And find herself surrounded by love and support and all the help she could want.
My God that rips my heart up.