DDD
Well-Known Member
I was dumb enough to think I could protect difficult child if I moved quickly. Once again I was wrong. Last night I spent tossing my cookies and trying to fight off a big headache. This morning I feel the aftereffects BUT am trying to get a plan together.
difficult child got $600 the first of the week and told me $1200 was on the way. I tracked down the apartment complex that GFGmom "had found" and talked to the manager, asked my State honcho son to check out safety concerns by and in the two complexes, with your help put together a grocery shopping list to help him begin prep for independent living, called him and invited him to go the Christmas Parade with me this week in his "new" City...etc. etc.
Lack of enthusiasm got me suspicious. I drove to their hous and asked him
"do you still have all your money so you and Granddad can begin to figure out what you need". Answer "No....but don't worry about it. It isn't your
problem, Mama." I pressed him. Then, I pressed him. Finally with great
reluctance he told me the truth.
"I had to give the money to Mom to pay the mortgage payments and stuff or he wouldn't have a house anymore. I love my Mom. I don't want to live
at your house anymore. Mom will pay me back. You can talk to her."
Sure as H, Mom came cruising out of the house and said innocently "I told you that difficult child didn't need Granddad to help him until February. Yes, I did
'ask difficult child' if I could borrow the money since he doesn't have to move out right away and he volunteered to give it to me."
I am still sick to my stomach this morning. I will be looking for the exact Statute that legally protects the disabled from exploitation. I will go
with her repay deadline date and send a legal, notarized notice to her that
if she does not return the full $1800 that the authorities will be informed and her career will be over. I will also include the six years that she took his child support and kids disability payments with-o giving anything to us who
were raising him.
I'm . DDD
difficult child got $600 the first of the week and told me $1200 was on the way. I tracked down the apartment complex that GFGmom "had found" and talked to the manager, asked my State honcho son to check out safety concerns by and in the two complexes, with your help put together a grocery shopping list to help him begin prep for independent living, called him and invited him to go the Christmas Parade with me this week in his "new" City...etc. etc.
Lack of enthusiasm got me suspicious. I drove to their hous and asked him
"do you still have all your money so you and Granddad can begin to figure out what you need". Answer "No....but don't worry about it. It isn't your
problem, Mama." I pressed him. Then, I pressed him. Finally with great
reluctance he told me the truth.
"I had to give the money to Mom to pay the mortgage payments and stuff or he wouldn't have a house anymore. I love my Mom. I don't want to live
at your house anymore. Mom will pay me back. You can talk to her."
Sure as H, Mom came cruising out of the house and said innocently "I told you that difficult child didn't need Granddad to help him until February. Yes, I did
'ask difficult child' if I could borrow the money since he doesn't have to move out right away and he volunteered to give it to me."
I am still sick to my stomach this morning. I will be looking for the exact Statute that legally protects the disabled from exploitation. I will go
with her repay deadline date and send a legal, notarized notice to her that
if she does not return the full $1800 that the authorities will be informed and her career will be over. I will also include the six years that she took his child support and kids disability payments with-o giving anything to us who
were raising him.
I'm . DDD