I swear my kids just don't learn. husband has had it and I've had it. I think we'd both like to leave but then who would watch the children?
The other day I posted how much better easy child/difficult child was doing in general except for with difficult child. difficult child is talking non stop these days, being gross, and generally annoying.
Another of difficult child's bad habits these days is putting his hands down his pants around others, sometimes he is even pulling his pants down. He is scratching a lot not playing with his privates (at least not when his pants are down).
Today I had a really nice day with-easy child/difficult child. I picked her up from summer school, she came with me to get my hair cut and then we went to lunch. After that I took her to her dentist appointment. On the way home I stopped to pick up difficult child from day camp.
He was singing along with the radio and a song easy child/difficult child really likes came on. difficult child kept singing and she yelled at him to stop (really he wasn't doing anything wrong-maybe being a bit annoying). I told him to please stop so we could hopefully prevent WW 203 from breaking out. He started whistling. Again, he shouldn't have but it wasn't that loud. easy child/difficult child screamed at him that he ruined everything.
We get home. husband is reading in our room. I plopped down on the bed because I'm exhausted. difficult child came in the room and was bothering us some. We ignored him and I closed my eyes and husband was still reading. Apparently he had pulled down his pants and was scratching (his butt not his privates). easy child/difficult child walked by, saw him, and screamed (at the top of her lungs) that he needed to pull up his pants. difficult child swore at her (which he shouldn't have) and then easy child/difficult child ran into our room and kicked him. Sigh... He went after her, she locked her door and he kicked it (it already had been damaged from something else and this ruined it further). She comes after him. He locks himself in our bedroom so she starts kicking his door until she puts a hole in it
husband finally blew. Things calmed down a bit. Then after dinner easy child/difficult child got upset that difficult child sat in the couch on "her spot" even though she wasn't sitting there. husband told her where did she expect him to sit? She screamed at husband to move some stuff off the couch of difficult children. husband screamed back and went upstairs. He's had and said he can't keep living like this (don't blame him neither can I). Then easy child/difficult child called difficult child a fat *ss. I told her to go up to her room. Took me telling her if she didn't her consequence would be a lot worse.
In the meantime difficult child is being a difficult child putting coins in water bottles, throwing coins, and generally being annoying. I told him he needed to go to his room (that took awhile as well).
Then easy child/difficult child comes out of her room and starts harassing him. He had put a hallway light on (which we usually have on upstairs) and she wanted it off. I stayed perfectly calm but explained the light needed to stay on. She just started screaming that it needed to be off. I tried to tell her she needs to work on taking out her anger in more positive ways, etc... She was still mad at me about the light. She kept saying rude things, I tried to disengage but didn't let her shut off the light because then difficult child would be blowing and the light should be on. She finally screamed at the top of the lungs that she hates me and I'm stupid.
Oh yeah and the window were open the whole time so I'm sure over half the neighborhood heard her. When I explained the windows were open she screamed she didn't give a *rap!I wanted to just hide!
I feel guilty complaining much because things aren't like they were when difficult child was violent on a daily basis but both kids are driving us nuts-easy child/difficult child and difficult child both.
Thank you so much for listening to me vent and if you made it this far you deserve some chocolate! Any thoughts or ideas?
The other day I posted how much better easy child/difficult child was doing in general except for with difficult child. difficult child is talking non stop these days, being gross, and generally annoying.
Another of difficult child's bad habits these days is putting his hands down his pants around others, sometimes he is even pulling his pants down. He is scratching a lot not playing with his privates (at least not when his pants are down).
Today I had a really nice day with-easy child/difficult child. I picked her up from summer school, she came with me to get my hair cut and then we went to lunch. After that I took her to her dentist appointment. On the way home I stopped to pick up difficult child from day camp.
He was singing along with the radio and a song easy child/difficult child really likes came on. difficult child kept singing and she yelled at him to stop (really he wasn't doing anything wrong-maybe being a bit annoying). I told him to please stop so we could hopefully prevent WW 203 from breaking out. He started whistling. Again, he shouldn't have but it wasn't that loud. easy child/difficult child screamed at him that he ruined everything.
We get home. husband is reading in our room. I plopped down on the bed because I'm exhausted. difficult child came in the room and was bothering us some. We ignored him and I closed my eyes and husband was still reading. Apparently he had pulled down his pants and was scratching (his butt not his privates). easy child/difficult child walked by, saw him, and screamed (at the top of her lungs) that he needed to pull up his pants. difficult child swore at her (which he shouldn't have) and then easy child/difficult child ran into our room and kicked him. Sigh... He went after her, she locked her door and he kicked it (it already had been damaged from something else and this ruined it further). She comes after him. He locks himself in our bedroom so she starts kicking his door until she puts a hole in it
husband finally blew. Things calmed down a bit. Then after dinner easy child/difficult child got upset that difficult child sat in the couch on "her spot" even though she wasn't sitting there. husband told her where did she expect him to sit? She screamed at husband to move some stuff off the couch of difficult children. husband screamed back and went upstairs. He's had and said he can't keep living like this (don't blame him neither can I). Then easy child/difficult child called difficult child a fat *ss. I told her to go up to her room. Took me telling her if she didn't her consequence would be a lot worse.
In the meantime difficult child is being a difficult child putting coins in water bottles, throwing coins, and generally being annoying. I told him he needed to go to his room (that took awhile as well).
Then easy child/difficult child comes out of her room and starts harassing him. He had put a hallway light on (which we usually have on upstairs) and she wanted it off. I stayed perfectly calm but explained the light needed to stay on. She just started screaming that it needed to be off. I tried to tell her she needs to work on taking out her anger in more positive ways, etc... She was still mad at me about the light. She kept saying rude things, I tried to disengage but didn't let her shut off the light because then difficult child would be blowing and the light should be on. She finally screamed at the top of the lungs that she hates me and I'm stupid.
Oh yeah and the window were open the whole time so I'm sure over half the neighborhood heard her. When I explained the windows were open she screamed she didn't give a *rap!I wanted to just hide!
I feel guilty complaining much because things aren't like they were when difficult child was violent on a daily basis but both kids are driving us nuts-easy child/difficult child and difficult child both.
Thank you so much for listening to me vent and if you made it this far you deserve some chocolate! Any thoughts or ideas?