OMGosh WHAT A NIGHT. difficult child was with his Integrated Listening Systems (ILS) worker at a library. He was sitting across from a girl at the computers. She was using her phone (he desperately wants one) so he starts pretending he has a phone too. Using the same facial expressions and pretending to dial a fake phone. The girl leaves and I guess her dad came to pick her up. She tells him difficult child was harassing her and copying her (now the Integrated Listening Systems (ILS) worker and librarian saw everything, this was not a case of harassment, but of course the girl may have been uncomfortable and could have said something, that 's fair. But it is not like he was going to attack her or anything.) DAD comes in screamming at the Integrated Listening Systems (ILS) worker, and difficult child and telling the librarian that if this happens again he is gonna call the cops etc. (what law says you can't imitate someone?) anyway, Integrated Listening Systems (ILS) worker tries to explain the situation and what they are working on, he says she is doing a lousy job, she tries to hide tears from difficult child. Librarian (I just called her) says that she (Integrated Listening Systems (ILS)) stood up for difficult child well and just calmly tries to explain. She said this guy came in too angry to even listen to anyone and he just didn't care. Q even tried to tell him he has "special needs" and the guy says you are 14 you know fully well what you are doing...blah blah. In the car on the way home difficult child tells Integrated Listening Systems (ILS) worker that he wishes he would have kicked him and yelled at him. So now Integrated Listening Systems (ILS) worker is mad at him saying you can't do things like that etc. I explain to Integrated Listening Systems (ILS) worker that difficult child doesn't like anyone to know when he is scared so gets "tough". She said, I dont think he was scared and just at that moment, he came up the sidewalk (he had been with friends so didn't hear us) he says mom, am I in trouble? I said, no but we will talk about giving people space again, though. And you will need to practice it. And he said, mom...I was SOOO scared. I said, I know. It is ok. Integrated Listening Systems (ILS) worker had an ahha moment. the librarian said she was scared herself too. She said the guy was a total jerk. Integrated Listening Systems (ILS) worker apologized too because she didn't realize he was so scared. OK, so Q needs to learn what most kids with Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) need to learn, to take another's perspective, we will keep working, but its a scary world out there.