In January when difficult child moved out to live with the grands I gave her a set of guidelines about what we would give her financially and what her responsibilities were. She of course never made any plans to follow the guidelines. My father was given the same information but apparently has developed either a brain tumor or refuses to understand plain English. Anyway the deal was that when difficult child turns 18 we would require her to pay us $150 to pay for car insurance and cell phone. Now as some of you will remember we were giving her $70 every two weeks to help her pay for her expenses. I know it sounds stupid and redundant but the plan was to slowly help her learn some financial responsibility. We would give her $140 and she would have to get a part time job to pay for the $10 difference and her toiletries. That way she had to be responsible but we weren't putting a huge burden on her. Of course for the last two months the extra $10 hasn't made it into the account. So today I texted her and said the bills were due this week did she have the $10 to put in the account for this month. I got no reply from difficult child BUT my dad called. He acted like we hadn't had this same conversation last month and said he would send us the $10 check. The plan wasn't for him to learn financial responsibility it was for difficult child to learn it. I told him not to bother. He told me not to bother to send the $140 since it was just a wash anyway. I didn't even bother to argue I just said fine I didn't expect any understanding anyway. I hung up. I texted difficult child and told her I wouldn't contact her about finances again and that she should feel free to contact me whenever she wanted to. I texted my mom (dad doesn't understand texting) and told her that I would no longer be bothering anyone about the money and that because of the lack of understanding I didn't wish to be contacted for a while. I am just so over it! I don't need this ****. I am trying to be a good parent. We are paying for her college this year and her housing, food, car, and cell phone. All she has to do is earn enough to pay for her toiletries. We even had it in writing we would help her with clothing and larger purchases. Nothing we do is good enough for any of them and I am just sick of being judged.