Just hung up with the therapists office. She wants H and I to join difficult child at a session so difficult child can tell us the extent of her alcohol consumption. Apparently, she's "really been keeping us in the dark" and the therapist "wants to see difficult child be honest about her use with us". I am going with difficult child this Friday (another day lost from work) so that she can be "totally honest with me about her use and we can all be on the same page about the AA meetings". Unfortunately, the meeting is at 10:30 AM and there is NO WAY that H can join us, which I'm really upset about because I think of all people, he is in the dark the most and thinks that difficult child is just making up reasons for her depression and erratic behavior. So, I tried to make a separate appointment for H and me to attend on Sept 10th and the receptionist, along with the counselor were not following my train of thought (to help me and counselor to clarify for H just what is going on so he can stop being so condescending towards difficult child). I even said that if difficult child were around and not in class, she would join us as planned, but that if she wasn't around, only H and I would be there - WHAT IS WRONG WITH THAT?????? I ask you. Well, they made the appointment finally. When I spoke with the therapist briefly, she intimated that there was a lot I do not know. I'm sure there is plenty I am not aware of. However, I really do not think we will be getting any major surprises. difficult child spends most of her time right under my nose as her friends have basically dumped her since school closed. We caught her 4 times either with alcohol or drunk since May. She told the counselor that she doesn't feel that she can stop 'using'. I sit here and shake my head because I just am not quite sure what to believe. I can't tell if she's snowing the therapist or us. Is her drinking really so much that it warrants AA meetings?? I realize it certainly can't hurt...and... Obviously if she's saying she wants help with it and is willing to go to AA, she should go and hopefully she will benefit. But I think back to when I was her age and I can say that everyone drank life fish, but not everyone became an alcoholic. I realize that she's predisposed to alcoholism and that she may be one of the ones who WILL become an alcoholic...but there is a part of me that feels its just part of normal exploration and that since the therapist makes a huge deal out of it, now difficult child is latching onto that...it's almost as if she's addicted to labels and it burns me up. I'm so freakin tired of dealing with everything. Is it so horrible for me to feel just sick and tired of having to deal with one more thing with difficult child?? Cuz I am - and I KNOW that H is and he is not going to be happy about this at all and I am not looking forward to the heated discussion I will have to endure with him about this. His feelings about everything are always right out there - he makes no pains to hide how he feels about anything and difficult child will know that he thinks it's all crap. I mean, J.H.C., when does this crap ever end already and can difficult child just grow up? Do what she's supposed to do and stop finding ways to make herself miserable and whine about how everything all the time?? I'm just so tired of it all.