Just discovered this site today. Looking for those with similar problems. I feel better already knowing I am not alone. My son turned 20 in July. He has been a problem for the past few years, but this summer he is worse. He is presently in jail in a neighboring county for shoplifting a pair of sunglasses. This would not be a huge deal if it was the only problem. He has been there 5 days and another 5 days til court date. We have decided not to bail him out in order to get the drugs out of his system. He admitted over a month ago to using heroin. He has not been doing that by staying away from a former co-worker but is now substituting prescription drugs such as zanex and benzo's? Went to detox for 5 days a few weeks ago. Went to family doctor and was prescribed generic zanex. Was abusing these and mixing with alcohol before being locked up. Luckily has not lost his license but just a matter of time. Breaks my heart him calling from jail but trying to be strong. He is immature and irresponsible and hasn't held a job. He is causing much stress between his stepdad and I. The worst part is I have to keep up a front so his 3-year-old sister can have a somewhat normal life. I also have to hide from family and friends, I am so ashamed and feel like a failure. Love him dearly but can't stand him in my life. Know what I mean?