I truely have no clue what to do anymore. I found this forum and just really need to get this out of me. I even skipped work because I am so ****ed emotional/angry right now and can't think straight. My daughter 20, for many many years, is a liar and a theif. She has stolen from mostly me, but also other family members and even what she calls friends. She has no guilt. None. Ever. She plays the I'm sorry card only if I push it to the extremes and that's only sometimes. She has been living with us off and on for several years. She had our beautiful granson 2 years ago. She, for the most part, has been living here quite regularly since he was born. Probably because I threaten her due to the situations/conditions she has put my grandson in.
She steals so much from me that my husband had to put nails all around my bedroom door so she and her theiving friends could not slide a credit card, knife, anything into it to open it. I sleep on top of my pocket book. I have to get all my clothes out of the dryer before I go to bed and put them in my room and lock the door. I literally cannot go to the bathroom for a split second and leave my door unlocked or my purse in another room. My check books have to be locked up also..obviously. Yes, she went there..10 minutes of leaving more bedroom unlocked she managed to get in and write a check to herself. Money is stolen from me weekly from my purse, because sometimes I think I'm doing something quickly that she would not have time to get into my pocket book, but she does.
Well, it had been almost a month since she wrote the check to herself. So last night, when she came home..I set it up my purse to test her. She fell for it...literally just a few minutes and my 40 dollars was gone. Mind you, the only people in my house is my husband, who was sleeping on the couch, my grandson, who is 2, and her! The one that ALWAYS steals from me. I opened my pocket book in front of her to see if the money was still there..of course it wasn't, and I could see the change in her face and posture. I told her to give it back. She swore to me on her own childs life she did not take it. I have been through this so so many times..it actually bores me now. We have now been fighting all night..I didn't give her a ride this morning to where she wanted to go..told her to use the money to get a taxi. She goes on FB and does the whole wah wah thing to her friends about how horrible I am without saying it's me she's talking about. She says she is done with me. Really?!!! Really?!!! I have never sworn so much in my head than I have this morning...I feel I am losing my mind!!!!! Mind you, we buy all the diapers, wipes, food, pay all the house hold bills that she pitches in nothing for, take care of her baby completely. And she continues to do this to me. It never ever stops..she even steals my make up...Nothing, nothing is safe in my house from this girl. My bedroom is not big enough to lock up everything that means something to me.
I have no more jewelry left over the years excpet whats on my finger. I have no more guilt left for not being a perfect parent to her standards left anymore either. I am at my wits end..my heart hurts. I try to help her all the time without over doing it...even bought her a car so she could get to work and try and be a good citizen..(not stealing but earning). She wrecked that car..along with other peoples cars...when she went to the hospital after she wrecked the car we bought (was in our name), they gave her treatment, well my health insurance was going to pay it..but they do it weird and sent her the check to pay the hospital bill. I waited and waited then finally said something about where the check was so I could pay the bill..I was getting ready to call the insurance company and she told me she already got the check and cashed/spent it. She thought they were paying her for being in the hospital...really?? Again, really??!!!
There are just so so many incidents with this child that I could literally write a book. I can't stand my own daughter...I don't like her..she cares nothing of her real family...she calls a druggy, screaming, thief her mother. It makes me sick to my stomach. I have kicked her out..but I worry about my grandson..she hangs out with the worse people. The only time I have slept well is when she is not here and my grandson is. I then have no worries...I stopped worring about her a while ago...she is just an awful person to me and for so long that I have become numb to her. I know that sounds horrible, she is my daughter, but she has caused so much pain in my life..and so much worry and has taken advantage of mostly me for to many years to remember. When does it end....can she not see that life is harder for her when she steals from me? She knows she needs our help. She is the best liar and theif there is AND she has no guilt EVER. God, I can go on and on...and I am in my head..I'm just tired and lost...
She steals so much from me that my husband had to put nails all around my bedroom door so she and her theiving friends could not slide a credit card, knife, anything into it to open it. I sleep on top of my pocket book. I have to get all my clothes out of the dryer before I go to bed and put them in my room and lock the door. I literally cannot go to the bathroom for a split second and leave my door unlocked or my purse in another room. My check books have to be locked up also..obviously. Yes, she went there..10 minutes of leaving more bedroom unlocked she managed to get in and write a check to herself. Money is stolen from me weekly from my purse, because sometimes I think I'm doing something quickly that she would not have time to get into my pocket book, but she does.
Well, it had been almost a month since she wrote the check to herself. So last night, when she came home..I set it up my purse to test her. She fell for it...literally just a few minutes and my 40 dollars was gone. Mind you, the only people in my house is my husband, who was sleeping on the couch, my grandson, who is 2, and her! The one that ALWAYS steals from me. I opened my pocket book in front of her to see if the money was still there..of course it wasn't, and I could see the change in her face and posture. I told her to give it back. She swore to me on her own childs life she did not take it. I have been through this so so many times..it actually bores me now. We have now been fighting all night..I didn't give her a ride this morning to where she wanted to go..told her to use the money to get a taxi. She goes on FB and does the whole wah wah thing to her friends about how horrible I am without saying it's me she's talking about. She says she is done with me. Really?!!! Really?!!! I have never sworn so much in my head than I have this morning...I feel I am losing my mind!!!!! Mind you, we buy all the diapers, wipes, food, pay all the house hold bills that she pitches in nothing for, take care of her baby completely. And she continues to do this to me. It never ever stops..she even steals my make up...Nothing, nothing is safe in my house from this girl. My bedroom is not big enough to lock up everything that means something to me.
I have no more jewelry left over the years excpet whats on my finger. I have no more guilt left for not being a perfect parent to her standards left anymore either. I am at my wits end..my heart hurts. I try to help her all the time without over doing it...even bought her a car so she could get to work and try and be a good citizen..(not stealing but earning). She wrecked that car..along with other peoples cars...when she went to the hospital after she wrecked the car we bought (was in our name), they gave her treatment, well my health insurance was going to pay it..but they do it weird and sent her the check to pay the hospital bill. I waited and waited then finally said something about where the check was so I could pay the bill..I was getting ready to call the insurance company and she told me she already got the check and cashed/spent it. She thought they were paying her for being in the hospital...really?? Again, really??!!!
There are just so so many incidents with this child that I could literally write a book. I can't stand my own daughter...I don't like her..she cares nothing of her real family...she calls a druggy, screaming, thief her mother. It makes me sick to my stomach. I have kicked her out..but I worry about my grandson..she hangs out with the worse people. The only time I have slept well is when she is not here and my grandson is. I then have no worries...I stopped worring about her a while ago...she is just an awful person to me and for so long that I have become numb to her. I know that sounds horrible, she is my daughter, but she has caused so much pain in my life..and so much worry and has taken advantage of mostly me for to many years to remember. When does it end....can she not see that life is harder for her when she steals from me? She knows she needs our help. She is the best liar and theif there is AND she has no guilt EVER. God, I can go on and on...and I am in my head..I'm just tired and lost...