toughlovin
Well-Known Member
Hi all,
Well things with difficult child have deteriorated. He messaged me yesterday and it is clear he is planning on coming back here and so I asked him about it and he asked if I was going to turn him in. I responded with what I thought were very clear boundaries... I would not call the police and tell him where he was, but I would not lie if they come and asked me. That I would not pay to hide him and he could not come to the house.... but I would meet him for a meal and I would give him the phone.
Well he reacted with all this stuff about how I needed to know my rights and that I didnt have to talk to the police etc etc. It got quite nasty with him calling me a snitch etc. I am not sure what he expected from me.... to support him while he hides out here from the police? I am not doing that!
He then completely blocked me, only to quickly unblock me but unfriend me so that he could send me another messsage and also tag me on a post in his FB page "My mom is f****** narc". Of course then I had to figure out how to get that off my FB page. LOL.
So that is where we are...he is coming back but has cut off contact with me... until of cousre hhe needs something like his phone. He is clearly back (for the moment) with the toxic girlfriend. I know that once he his back here he will end up getting arrested for something (hopefully nothing too terrible) and will probably end up in prison and at this point I really think that is the best place for him. I think it is the only way he will get any treatment and stick with it.
I am really ok at the moment.... disgusted and so detaching detaching detaching once again.
*TL
Well things with difficult child have deteriorated. He messaged me yesterday and it is clear he is planning on coming back here and so I asked him about it and he asked if I was going to turn him in. I responded with what I thought were very clear boundaries... I would not call the police and tell him where he was, but I would not lie if they come and asked me. That I would not pay to hide him and he could not come to the house.... but I would meet him for a meal and I would give him the phone.
Well he reacted with all this stuff about how I needed to know my rights and that I didnt have to talk to the police etc etc. It got quite nasty with him calling me a snitch etc. I am not sure what he expected from me.... to support him while he hides out here from the police? I am not doing that!
He then completely blocked me, only to quickly unblock me but unfriend me so that he could send me another messsage and also tag me on a post in his FB page "My mom is f****** narc". Of course then I had to figure out how to get that off my FB page. LOL.
So that is where we are...he is coming back but has cut off contact with me... until of cousre hhe needs something like his phone. He is clearly back (for the moment) with the toxic girlfriend. I know that once he his back here he will end up getting arrested for something (hopefully nothing too terrible) and will probably end up in prison and at this point I really think that is the best place for him. I think it is the only way he will get any treatment and stick with it.
I am really ok at the moment.... disgusted and so detaching detaching detaching once again.
*TL