I have thrown (too much) energy and money into fixing my teen. I am starting to really understand that it's a fools game. He is not ready to change. I can't get out of dealing with the endless grief he causes as he is considered my responsibility in law however I am going to have to stop trying to save him. My question is this, should I spend some money on my own rehab? My relationship is under strain; I struggle to function at work; I have anxiety and I have suffered what I can only describe as a bereavement caused by the rapid deterioration of my son's behaviour. I mean why did it happen? Therapy/ counselling is not as popular here as in the US? I am scared I will spend a load of cash just to talk about myself and dwell on my problems. What has been your experience if you have had it? How does it help? I feel like I need advice not just 'listening'.