It's been 2 days since I found out difficult child is in county jail. The first day was horrible and yesterday was bad but I'm more accepting of everything today. I feel a little more at peace. At least I know where he is and that he has a roof over his head and something (although WHAT I don't know) to eat. He tried to collect call me this morning but it wouldn't let me accept because he has to pay a $150 jail processing fee before he's allowed to have things like phone and commissary. I wrote him a letter though and explained that we love him and are here for moral support but that HE has to change things if he doesn't want his life to continue on like this. I talked to inmate services and they said his court date is November 2nd but it's very unlikely that the judge will release him ROA because he doesn't live in the state, will be considered homeless as of Monday because he's losing his bed at the group home and has no job. The bail is $10,000 with a 10% bond option but I can't risk paying it because I know he'll never go back to face court dates, etc. So it's reality now - difficult child is officially in jail. On top of that I'm sick, have 30 people coming for a costume party tomorrow night, and we here in NJ are expected to get a direct hit from Hurricane Sandy on Monday. They're calling it "Frankenstorm" and it will supposedly be a storm of "historical proportions"! Uggggh! Good times I tell ya! Good times!!!