I threw my 19 year old step son out in January. Abuses dabs, a very concentrated form of thc. He came to our home after tumultuous things went down at his fathers house. We didn't get the whole story of course, just his. The lies started almost immediately. Look me directly in the eyes and lie like it meant nothing. He flipped my UTV. $2000 damage. Even got his younger brother to go along with the lie. Snuck out of the house. Was smoking in the house repeatedly. Then friends started missing money at gatherings. The only new person in the group was him. Then, on the eve of his birthday my wife reviewed surveillance from inside our home and there he was picking up my briefcase, looking around nervously, and scooting downstairs. He returns a few minutes later and he's trying to place the briefcase exactly as it had been on a chair. I lost it. I mean, screaming so loud and so furious I felt an explosion in my head. I was driving to where he worked and I had to pull into fire dept. blood pressure 200/100. Now I am placed in ambulance and off we go to hospital. I told him that by the time I got home he had better be on a plane back to his fathers. I am done. Fast forward to now, about 5 weeks later. He has completely cut my wife out of his life. Blocked her on Facebook, twitter, no contact whatsoever. I lashed out at him once on twitter for bragging about doing drugs. Blocked. Then on Facebook for whining about losing his headphones. Blocked. I have no idea how much he stole, but I will never be able to erase that video from my head. There he was. In my kitchen. Stealing. So, now I am on the s>#tlist for throwing him out. "At least if he was hear I could watch him!" Which was making her miserable. "YOU have cut me off from my son!" I cannot and will not live with a thief and someone that lies and has no conscience. "YOU want to ruin my contact with him!" I really don't. I just want peace back in my marriage and my home. This young man is an addict. He is also unbelievably conniving and manipulative, and his birth parents sort of see it, but it is a blaring and glaring red light!! When he was gone he left his drug paraphernalia out in plain site in my car he was driving. One last FU before he left. Getting wasted in my car. So much damage. I don't know if my wife will ever forgive me for Standing my ground. And I won't back down. I went through 19 years with an addicted brother and a lifetime with an addictive father. I am done. I have no space in my life for the games. But it may ruin my relationship and we have the most wonderful 5 year old girl on the planet. But as we fought last night, she cried and cried. His dishonesty and manipulation is hurting my baby now. I am pissed. I am tired. I think he has done irreparable damage here and I don't know what to do. "YOU ARE NOT HIS PARENT!!!" Yes, I know, but this is my life and my home and my daughter and I will protect them. And I don't think there is ANYTHING wrong with calling out an addict at every lie. Thoughts??