This is tough. My step daughter, who's 23,and her boyfriend( who's 34) are staying with me right now. She has been homeless at her own choosing for about 4 years. I've tried before to get her off the street and failed because I was too mean, in her opinion. Now I'm failing again. I don't know what to do- I have no reference point for this. She is such a beautiful girl, and so capable. But down right refuses to get a job or live a regular life. She had been living on a boat with her boyfriend and a friend, until it was stolen. She was sopping wet from being in the Bay looking for her boat, so when they left the marina they found a bums shopping cart with clothes in it and changed into them. She only called me because there was nowhere else for them to go. And they have 2 dogs I let them kind of have a week with no guidelines, just to recuperate. When the week was over I gave her the slightest nudge to move forward- and that "stressed her out"They promised to help me around the house. Instead they do nothing and found all the alcohol in the house and drank it. She calls her dad ( who travels for work so isn't home) and says I'm being mean to her. She calls her grandma and does the same. I don't want her back on the street, but also have a 13 year old son to worry about. I have tried tough love, it only alienated her from me. I know I'm being codependent with her. I'm just scared to lose her to the "street scene". I just don't know what to do.