Californiablonde
Well-Known Member
So I posted a few months ago that my former best friend of 25 years and my kids' godmother blocked me from Facebook. Before I was blocked she said some pretty mean and nasty things about the kids and I. She called me an overweight insecure drama queen. Threw in my face that she is super thin and can eat whatever she wants. Told me my kids were losers and will wind up drug addicts on the streets and teen parents. Told me she has secretly resented me and hated me for years. she completely severed all ties with me. I told her that regardless of how she felt about me, I would always still care about her and her son, who I have known since he was born. She told me she had absolutely no interest at all in me or my kids' lives. There wasn't much I could do but accept it. When her son's eighth birthday came around in April I sent him a happy birthday email. She told me she never wanted me to contact her or her son for any reason ever again, then I was blocked. So be it.
Since then I have completely lost all contact with her. I changed phones several months ago so I no longer have her phone number. I do not have her email address saved either. But we do both belong to an online tagging group. I am not very active in the group, although I do receive emails from other group members with different tags and pictures. Mostly the group is pretty non personal. They share and discuss tags and pics but do not really get into other's personal lives. Most of the time when I get the emails from the group members I just delete them. Sometimes I see emails from my former friend commenting on different pics, etc. I just delete them as well and don't give them another thought. Awhile ago she posted something of an apology for not being around much. Said she was having issues in her personal life. Somebody from the group emailed her back and asked her to elaborate. So she sent out a group email telling everyone she is having problems with her eight year old son. I think she forgot that I am a group member when she posted it. So she probably has no idea that I saw what she wrote. She told the group that her son is refusing to take his ADHD medications. He has been having major meltdowns at school and at home. Throwing big tantrums and showing major defiance. She says he is really disruptive and out of control. She does not have free time like she used to because she is putting every bit of effort into trying to control him.
Mind you this is the same friend that told me years ago that all of my daughter's problems were my fault. difficult child didn't get formally diagnosed with early onset bipolar until she was eight. Even after she was diagnosed it took a couple of years to finally get her stable. She used to rage and not sleep at night. She was suicidal. My friend told me that all I needed to do was beat the **** out of her and teach her a lesson. She said she didn't believe there was anything mentally wrong with difficult child other than being a total spoiled brat. We have had many arguments in the past about it. So now she has a difficult child of her own. I would never wish a difficult child on anybody, but if I had to pick one friend to get one it would be her. I don't feel bad for her. I do, however, feel bad for her son. He is obviously not stable and he must be miserable. My friend has always been known for being very impatient and for being a yeller. i am sure she is not coping well with her son. Had she not disowned me I could have offered her some support from someone who has been there/done that. It took me years to learn how to detach from difficult child and I could have helped her along a little bit. But she made it absolutely clear that she wants nothing more to do with me at all whatsoever. So I have no choice but to leave her alone. Part of me is hoping that in some small way she is thinking of me now and regretting her nasty words to me. I will never know. I really wish I could still be involved in her son's life but she wants no part of me. So it's time for me to move on. It's just too bad it had to happen this way.
Since then I have completely lost all contact with her. I changed phones several months ago so I no longer have her phone number. I do not have her email address saved either. But we do both belong to an online tagging group. I am not very active in the group, although I do receive emails from other group members with different tags and pictures. Mostly the group is pretty non personal. They share and discuss tags and pics but do not really get into other's personal lives. Most of the time when I get the emails from the group members I just delete them. Sometimes I see emails from my former friend commenting on different pics, etc. I just delete them as well and don't give them another thought. Awhile ago she posted something of an apology for not being around much. Said she was having issues in her personal life. Somebody from the group emailed her back and asked her to elaborate. So she sent out a group email telling everyone she is having problems with her eight year old son. I think she forgot that I am a group member when she posted it. So she probably has no idea that I saw what she wrote. She told the group that her son is refusing to take his ADHD medications. He has been having major meltdowns at school and at home. Throwing big tantrums and showing major defiance. She says he is really disruptive and out of control. She does not have free time like she used to because she is putting every bit of effort into trying to control him.
Mind you this is the same friend that told me years ago that all of my daughter's problems were my fault. difficult child didn't get formally diagnosed with early onset bipolar until she was eight. Even after she was diagnosed it took a couple of years to finally get her stable. She used to rage and not sleep at night. She was suicidal. My friend told me that all I needed to do was beat the **** out of her and teach her a lesson. She said she didn't believe there was anything mentally wrong with difficult child other than being a total spoiled brat. We have had many arguments in the past about it. So now she has a difficult child of her own. I would never wish a difficult child on anybody, but if I had to pick one friend to get one it would be her. I don't feel bad for her. I do, however, feel bad for her son. He is obviously not stable and he must be miserable. My friend has always been known for being very impatient and for being a yeller. i am sure she is not coping well with her son. Had she not disowned me I could have offered her some support from someone who has been there/done that. It took me years to learn how to detach from difficult child and I could have helped her along a little bit. But she made it absolutely clear that she wants nothing more to do with me at all whatsoever. So I have no choice but to leave her alone. Part of me is hoping that in some small way she is thinking of me now and regretting her nasty words to me. I will never know. I really wish I could still be involved in her son's life but she wants no part of me. So it's time for me to move on. It's just too bad it had to happen this way.
