So here is the situation. We have invited our difficult child to come over for Thanksgiving dinner. Not sure if he will be able to or not due to possible work conflict as he is bell ringing for the Salvation Army. Our son has asked if J-2 can come as well. Im 99.9% certain that J-2 has invited himself and that our son doesnt really want him along and only asked us if he could bring him along just so we would be the ones to say no. I've been thinking on this and while our difficult child is no angel, I cant help but think about how much trouble he would have avoided in his life if he would just grow a spine and tell J-2 NO! I hate to be the jerk on the holiday but the reality is that just having our son over will be uncomfortable enough without J-2 adding his 2 cents into everything. Add on to that the fact that I simply dont want J-2 in our house anymore. Any thoughts or tips would be greatly appreciated and if you read this and dont know what Im talking about, look up threads by my wife Lil. It has all been explained and several here already know the situation. Thanks.