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toughlovin
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Hi all,
Well I am doing better but my son is still a mess. I had a good text convo with him on Tuesday in which it came out he and his girlfriend broke up. Not really a surprise but I feel pretty angry that she and her mom brought him back here and now he is even more lost....but I also know that was his decision. So we had a good non confrontational convo where he did admit he has been drinking and i tried to just be understanding of his pain. I had this convo and a little while later the police called again because there were some more calls worried about him and they wanted to do a well being check again. This ended up involving 3 different PDs. I guess he was not there when he went to the house so I tried to get a hold of him, no response. I finally talked to his friend and he said he was with his girlfriend.... anyway I did text him and told him to check in with the police. So yesterday he texted me and asked me for a ride home from work. It is way out of my way but i really wanted to lay my eyes on him after all this. So I went to pick him up. Turned out he had gotten another ride but I had not gotten his text msg telling me so....he felt appropriately bad about putting me out of my way. I was glad to see him and told him he could talk to me for a couple of minutes. So we chatted and I asked him about the other night... he said he had checked in with the police and that he was fine. That kids got freaked out by some of his drug references. I get that because i was freaked out by them. So I asked him about them and he did admit to me that in the past he has tried heroin twice. I suspected that but of course was hoping I was wrong. Of course this scares me to death....but it felt good to have him be honest and to have the reality of his drug use on the table. Made me glad we got him into rehab when we did.... even though he is now relapsing, we postponed a serious heroin addiction for at least a while and hopefully he learned enough to get back on track before he really goes down that road. I think he and his girlfriend did not work things out and so he is really hurting from that. I did tell him that if and when he is ready to be committed to sobriety we would help pay for him to go to a sober living place. I made it sort of casual, not telling him what he had to do.... so he did not get upset but just said thank you. I also just told him I loved him, that noone loves you like your mother does. He said he knew that. So the interaction between us was pretty good..... but of course the reality of his drug use has me reeling a bit, but I am glad to know the truth. He did not need detox when he went into rehab which is a good sign... and I am just praying he does not go there again. (And full knowledge that he may very well go there).
Well I am doing better but my son is still a mess. I had a good text convo with him on Tuesday in which it came out he and his girlfriend broke up. Not really a surprise but I feel pretty angry that she and her mom brought him back here and now he is even more lost....but I also know that was his decision. So we had a good non confrontational convo where he did admit he has been drinking and i tried to just be understanding of his pain. I had this convo and a little while later the police called again because there were some more calls worried about him and they wanted to do a well being check again. This ended up involving 3 different PDs. I guess he was not there when he went to the house so I tried to get a hold of him, no response. I finally talked to his friend and he said he was with his girlfriend.... anyway I did text him and told him to check in with the police. So yesterday he texted me and asked me for a ride home from work. It is way out of my way but i really wanted to lay my eyes on him after all this. So I went to pick him up. Turned out he had gotten another ride but I had not gotten his text msg telling me so....he felt appropriately bad about putting me out of my way. I was glad to see him and told him he could talk to me for a couple of minutes. So we chatted and I asked him about the other night... he said he had checked in with the police and that he was fine. That kids got freaked out by some of his drug references. I get that because i was freaked out by them. So I asked him about them and he did admit to me that in the past he has tried heroin twice. I suspected that but of course was hoping I was wrong. Of course this scares me to death....but it felt good to have him be honest and to have the reality of his drug use on the table. Made me glad we got him into rehab when we did.... even though he is now relapsing, we postponed a serious heroin addiction for at least a while and hopefully he learned enough to get back on track before he really goes down that road. I think he and his girlfriend did not work things out and so he is really hurting from that. I did tell him that if and when he is ready to be committed to sobriety we would help pay for him to go to a sober living place. I made it sort of casual, not telling him what he had to do.... so he did not get upset but just said thank you. I also just told him I loved him, that noone loves you like your mother does. He said he knew that. So the interaction between us was pretty good..... but of course the reality of his drug use has me reeling a bit, but I am glad to know the truth. He did not need detox when he went into rehab which is a good sign... and I am just praying he does not go there again. (And full knowledge that he may very well go there).