Not sure you guys remember me. My daughter turned 18 in June and moved out. Long story short or maybe not so short....we were doing ok and than not and now its really bad. We had taken a loan for a new car last June for her. She makes the payments and hasn't missed any. But because the car is under our name and insurance is as well, we asked her not to do drugs. It was s liability and we said we would drug test. We have every right asking this, no?? Months went by and I thought she was clean but than I saw that she was not. We told her she needed to come by for a drug test. Instead of agreeing, she said she was going to take out a loan in her name. Well of course she would need a cosigner because she's 18 and zero credit. I contacted our insurance to get a quote for her own policy. She pays $50 a month under ours, with her own policy it would be $225 a month. We were planning to have a talk about all of this tomorrow and reiterate the no drugs rule. Well everything came to a head today, She told me to just take the effing car. I said are you choosing drugs over a new car and she says no I'm tired of all of this. I agreed and said I too was tired. I said fine, we are coming to get it now. Since she was at work, I asked if she had a ride home. She said what do you care? So I said I guess I don't, on my way. And we went it got it. I also cancelled her phone, again she paid, she was under our family plan and we charged her $50 a month, way less if she was on her own. Again trying to help her. Doesn't matter to her, she thinks we are controlling. I saw on social media that she put, There you go, you got way you wanted. I hope I never have to deal with you again. My heart has been broken so many times with her actions or lack of care for me and her family. She has been very disrespectful, selfish and her choices are dangerous. I know I need to let go even more now. Any advice would be appreciated.