I wanted to update everyone on the psychiatrist appointment. for SS that happened on Wednesday. First of all, the dr. didn't even talk to SS at all. Just to bio mom, and then to bio mom and husband and I. We were able to tell the dr. what SS's behavior is when he is with us. The dr. seemed nice and very somewhat knowledgeable. He basically said there are a number of things going on. There is the bipolar, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), and ADHD behavior, and then there is the very spoiled child, manipulative behavior. He thinks that bio mom has let him have too much free reign, and he knows how to push her buttons and knows what he can get by with where she is concerned. For example, SS refused to get ready for the dr. appointment. Said he wasn't going to go unless she went and bought him donuts. So, she went and bought him donuts so he would go. Anyway, the dr. says it's hard to figure out which behavior is the mental illness, and which is spoiled brat and that it will take time and observation to figure it out. And that we should all keep a journal of his behavior and moods. Not sure I quite agree with him, because the dangerous behavior is TOTALLY the mental illnesses in my opinion. husband and I expressed to the dr. that we are very concerned for our safety when he is having meltdowns. And I added that I am concerned for our safety even when he isn't having meltdowns. There is just something not right about his behavior even when he is seemingly calm. He will either have an evil look on his face, or his eyes will just look vacant. In any event, we told the dr. there needs to be some sort of plan for treatment. And all the dr. said is well, if you are concerned for your safety, either take him to the ER for crisis intervention, or call law enforcement. That was all he offered. He did tell bio mom that she needs to actually take the unruly child paperwork that she had done with the prosecutor and FILE THE CHARGES with the court. She still hasn't filed the charges, and dr. said she NEEDS to do this to have a paper trail in place. Bio mom said to husband and I, "do you know what it feels like to have to file charges on my son? It's like a knife in the heart!" While we sympathize with her, she really needs to file the paperwork. We know it's hard, but she needs to have this in place and documented in case SS does something bad. This child is a volcano ready to blow and the question is not IF he hurts someone, but WHEN. As for us taking him every other weekend, husband said to me that if bio mom isn't going to do what the dr. recommended, he is going to tell her that we are not going to take him for our weekends anymore. Not for any overnights at least. We will still go and see him once a month or so and take him to lunch or on an outing, but not have him in our home any longer. Now whether husband will follow through on this remains to be seen. He has said before we are going to quit taking him on weekends and then not followed through. But he is angry at bio mom for not doing what the doctor, counselors, and the prosecutor have told her to do. SS has another appointment. with a new psychiatrist on Saturday morning, and we will be going to that appointment. as well. Bio mom wants a second opinion, and this dr. is closer to were she lives and is supposed to be very good. Please continue to keep us in your prayers.