I have not posted on my son in sometime. He had been living in a cottage setting getting the best therapy he has ever had. He was earning money and privileges. He was the healthiest he has ever been. I could have a conversation with him that did not end in a circular ridicules string of blather. It did not happen over night. He had to dig deep, be honest, own his life, and stay away from drugs. Enter the girl and exit the program. He is living with this girl and her child. There are drugs and dealing drugs along with domestic violence (both of them). The calls for money, a place to stay ,and accusations of bad parenting blah blah on and on. I have a new phone number and a beefed up security system. I let him know that I love him and hope that his life is everything he wants it to be. That was it. It has been almost a month since I spoke with him. I don't facebook stalk or drive myself crazy calling hospitals and jails. On his 21 birthday I will stick a candle in a cupcake and celebrate the fact that I still love him and his gift is his freedom to live his life on his terms good or bad.