Not quite sure I understand what your saying Dottie ??
I think she is sort of saying w hat I said.
There is a lot of divorce now and parents deserve to be happy again with new partners. But you can't FORCE the rest of your family to be ready or interested or accepting of them. So you have a choice. Most people here think your daughter is being a selfish brat and you should move on with this new honey. They even think that, because of her age, hearing your love sounds were ok and she should "get over it." This is the prevailing opinion here and it does stem from the 60's/70's "do whatcha wanna do." At least I think it does (I could be wrong). Many people do jus this and often it works out, but I know many families that go into turmoil when the new person steps in...there are a lot of factors that determine how it goes.
In fact, I know people who divorce and start introducing very YOUNG children to new babes right away, in my opinion confusing the children and making them sad and less respectful of their parents.
She is saying that she chose a man her family disliked and that, in the end, it turned out that their intuition was correct and she lost her daughter over it and is sorry she ever married the man. He did NOT make her happy. She misses her daughter.
I put it another way because I remember how cool I felt towards my parents new loves, even in my twenties. Which was normal...they didn't always care for or accept who I dated either. And neither parents nor kids of any age usually want to think about their family members having sex, let alone hearing the actuality of it. I think you would have had better judgment being far away from daughter when you and your honey had made love. Not all even adult kids are openminded enough to be ok with hearing sex noises from their parents, especially if the sex noises are with a stranger and Dad. I would have been grossed out to no end. And I'm sure Dad wouldn't have wanted to hear ME and my boyfriends having sex either.
You can not have it all, because life doesn't work that way. At least for now (and none of us can predict the future) you have your honey who supposedly you can move on with and be happy but you don't have your daughter. Did she ever tell you what she disliked about the situation? Did you ever talk to her about it before you brought her home? Communication, communication, communication! It's better than location, location, location.
Your daughter may be a brat. I don't know her. Your honey may be the salt of the earth. I don't know her. You may be the best father on the planet and greatly wronged. We all know little about your situation. But the cold hard facts are you HAVE your honey and you're still not happy because your daughter is currently no longer in your life. She may or may not grow to accept this lady, if you actually marry her. Right now she's just a girlfriend that dad is having sex with. There are two schools of thought in this thread.
One and by far the most popular school of thought is that your daughter is a brat and should not be treating you this way and that she should grow up and accept your girlfriend and even be ok with hearing you having sex (would YOU have wanted to hear your parents having sex with new people?) But that's the prevailing few here.
The other is Dottie and me. Well, we don't exactly feel the same way, but we are similar. She says you don't know why daughter is against this woman and maybe she has a point that you can't see since you are in the honeymoon stage and still hormonal. And she also says the daughter may not come back. I'm saying that you can have your honey, but, at this time, you can't have your honey and your daughter and that I don't know why daughter suddenly won't talk to you, but I'll bet there's something you're not telling us. Maybe sh e dislikes this lady. Maybe she wishes her father would have sex in a place where she can't hear it, which in my opinion is reasonable. At any rate, you have a choice to make but, at least at this time in your life, you can't have both. Daughter MAY come back. She may not. Many of us, me included, have had kids walk out on us and never return. There is the in-between scenario too...she may return, but it won't ever be the same.
I am not telling you to get rid of your honey or to keep her. I'm just trying to explain where we are coming from. Since we just have a tiny snapshot of the situation, it is hard to give you any solid advice.
I do hope things so better and you get all the joys you want out of life.
I am not scolding you. I am explaining my point of view and Dottie shares a lot of mine too. I think sometimes girls are more sensitive about these things than boys.