After raising three children who were regularly disappointed by their father I have some free advise.........advise that I did NOT utilize in raising the kids and wish that I had used.
BBK, although I completely and totally understand the pain you and Tink are experiencing due to your Ex., I really think you need to look at this as an learning opportunity for Tink. What lesson am I referring to??
Whether you are 8 years old or 80 years old every day you make choices.
Even though Daddy loves you with his whole heart (you don't have describe his heart compared to a great functioning Daddy heart
) he
evidently made a poor choice one day. Just like if you make a choice to eat nothing but chocolate all day, at the end of the day you will have a
terrible tummy ache....sometimes kids and adults make choices that later on hurt them or the people that they love. Daddy is not the only person who has made a poor choice. Most people do make some poor choices.
Now Daddy can't be here to see you but it does not mean he would not love to see you. It means..simply..that if "anyone" makes a "big" poor choice they have to be responsible for what happens to them.
SO....let's figure out Tink what "you can do" to make this better for YOU and for Daddy. What do you think? Do you think if you draw a pretty picture it will make Daddy smile? What about a letter? Or a school paper that shows how smart you are?
In other words, try to find a way to express the life lesson. Acknowledge
her pain BUT suggest steps that can be taken to make the situation better.
Yes, I remember the pain of rejected little children. I did my best. I know you are doing your best, too. You are a wonderful Mom. My suggestion
"may" make it easier for your little girl. I hope so. Hugs. DDD