My difficult son is not a young adult, he is in his 40's. It is now or never that I quit enabling him and get my my life back. He was never diagnosed with any particular mental disorder. He has a high IQ, pleasant looking, charming, all that jazz. He is also a liar and a master manipulator that has stolen from me for years. In spite of all that I still tried and tried to help him, financially and otherwise. He is in jail after getting into a fight with his girlfriend. Domestic assault and she threw in a few more charges too. This abusive, toxic relationship has been going on for a year now. She has been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder and has contributed greatly to the hell I've been living in. It makes me a nervous wreck not knowing what's coming next. She was homeless when he met her and will be again unless she hooks up with another loser while he's out of the picture. From my lips........that would be awesome! Now that he is in jail, I hope he takes advantages of any resources that could help him on the outside. When he gets out, he can NOT live with me! I have to make it stick! How do I deal with knowing he may have to live on the street? I wish he could get into a men's rehabilitation program when he gets out. I just have to enjoy these next few weeks of peace. He may be in there for a month so that gives me some time to get my bearings. I would very much appreciate hearing from others who have dealt with similar situations. Thank you.